This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Hamilton chapter.
While applying to college my senior year of high school, I was stuck between
two very different schools. I was being pulled in opposite directions by each of the
schools’ attractions—one for its sense of community on campus and the other for
the thriving city in which it was located. I thought that one would be the classic
liberal arts school experience including dinner at professors’ houses and late-night
hangouts, and the other a more typical big school experience complete with Greek
life and school spirit. I had to decide: Which of these aspects would I appreciate
more in my college experience?
I opted for the excitement of the urban university. Why would I pass up what
most people would consider the stereotypically ideal college experience? Yet, when
I actually got there, something felt off. Of course I was having a blast going out very
frequently, being a member of a sorority, and exploring a unique city, but I still felt
that something was missing. I decided to apply to transfer for the next year—not
thinking I would actually go through with it.
When I got into Hamilton, I still felt conflicted because I couldn’t imagine
leaving the great group of friends I had made during my first year. I ultimately
decided, however, that the small liberal arts education might be a better fit for me
and that my wonderful friendships would survive the separation.
Hamilton has definitely been a culture shock. I miss being able to go off into a
city with countless restaurants, bars, and live music, and of course it’s hard to come
back as a sophomore and not know anyone—I have definitely been mistaken for a
freshmen too many times. But coming in with other transfers who are going through
a similar experience creates an incredible bond and has made the transition a lot
easier. I also have been pleased to find that many returning students are open to
and excited about making new friends. Yes, I’ve had a couple negative experiences
in which I put myself out there and did not receive the warmest reception, but I’ve
learned an important lesson from this—you can’t let the rare unfriendly people
taint your view of the entire student body. By going out and joining clubs I wouldn’t
normally join, I’ve met some really interesting and caring people.
Every college has its strengths and faults, which vary for each individual. The
key is to find the place, not that is most obviously desirable, but that is most attuned
to your particular desires. Even if your perception of a school does not align with
the majority of other students’ perceptions, there is absolutely nothing wrong with
making a change! Just as it takes a while for freshman to find their place, with time
and perseverance, transfers should be able to find theirs.