We’ve all been there – the painful realization that you are crushing on someone. One of the most liberating things about being single is knowing that you are unattached and have the freedom to see the world in a different light. Essentially, the world is your oyster! I don’t know about you, but one of my favorite things about being single is being able to gush to my girlfriends about all of the cute guys who I see and being able to simply state that “yes, I do think that he is cute.” However, throughout our journey of being a single girl, there will always be that one guy who sneakily crawls into your life and becomes the object of your slight obsession with love – in other words, you are officially crushing on him. With that being said, here are my take on the 7 stages of having a crush as told by Blair Waldorf because who is a more fabulous queen at dealing with love than the Queen herself?
Stage One: The “I’m ready to take on the world” Stage
Whether you have just gotten out of a relationship or you are finally ready to be a part of the dating scene, it’s always exciting (and a little bit frightening) about finally dipping your feet into the world of dating. As Blair Waldorf would put it, don’t be afraid to be the fabulous queen that you are and exuberate confidence with every step you take. #YouGoB
Stage Two: The “My crush is so cute” Stage
See that cute guy who’s walking towards the door? Yup, that is Mr. Cutie. Congrats! You’re finally crushing on someone and can’t stop talking about how cute he is.
Stage Three: The “Look he texted me” Stage
Although at first you were just acquaintances, you’re finally on a first-name/texting basis. This is the stage where you can’t stop talking to your best girlfriends about how he’s totally into you because he wouldn’t reply back if he didn’t want to right? The stars seem to align for you and you can’t believe your luck. #hopelessromantic
Stage Four: The “He’s just not that into you” Stage
We’ve all had our experiences with a Nate Archibald. In other words, the guy who we’re still chasing after but you secretly know that he’s just not that into you. Because you’re still in the early stages of having a crush, it’s hard to escape the honeymoon phase where it’s hard to deny that all of the signs are simply a case of misunderstanding.
Stage Five: The “Maybe there’s still hope” Stage
Having a crush can sometimes be difficult, especially if your girlfriends are telling you that he’s just not worth your time. After being single and finally ready to mingle, it can be hard to deny the obvious signs that are staring in front of your face: HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. Being the person that you are, there’s always that sliver of hope within your heart that’s holding onto the idea that maybe he really is interested.
Stage Six: The “My girlfriends were right all along” Stage
Bring in the ice cream and blankets because your girlfriends were absolutely right. After professing your love to your crush, everything is finally confirmed: he’s just not interested. Although not having your feelings be reciprocated can be tough, at least you know how he feels and isn’t left constantly wondering “what if” and “what coul have been.”
Stage Seven: Moving On
At the end of the day, you put yourself out there and managed to come out stronger. There were lessons that you’ve learned along the process and friendships who you know will always be there for you. So you didn’t get the guy. Who cares? After all, a crush is just a crush and there are plenty of fish in the sea. After a day of ice cream and girl talk, you are finally ready to put yourself out there and see where life takes you.
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Being rejected isn’t the end of the road; you are so much more than a mere rejection. Cheer up girl because your prince charming is out there. If we’ve learned anything from Blair Waldorf, it is that you are a strong and independent woman who can conquer anything. Channel your inner Blair Waldorf and be the amazing person that you are.
xoxo, Gossip Girl.
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