I would like to preface this article with this statement: if you are in a realtionship, and/or want to be in a relatioship, there is NOTHING wrong with that! I have plenty of friends that are perfectly content in their serious relationships, and I am so happy for them. However, I think this needs to be said. You do NOT have to be in relationship to be happy and accomplished. Are relationships nice? Yes. Should that be your sole focus and the only thing that validates your accomplishment in college? Definetly no.
The number one question I have been asked since coming home for break is if I have a boyfriend. Not about the cool new writing oppurtunity I have, or how my classes are, but my relationship status. I know these people are only asking because they want me to be happy, and they think that includes a boyfriend. I’m not offended, I’m not upset. Though sometimes it feels like all of these amazing accomlishments aren’t valid to some people if I don’t have a boyfriend, which I think is just ridiculous.
I’m not saying that I have sworn off having a relationship in college. Relationships are all about timing, and honestly when the time is right, I’m sure I will have a very happy and successful relationship. Until then though, I need people to realize that I AM happy, even though I’m single. I’m more concerned with making life long friends and finding oppurtunites that I can write, than I am about finding Mister Right. This is the time in my life when I can be single and wildly unprepared for things. Would you like to know why? Because I am in college.
This is the time in my life to be thinking about me, and what makes me happy. Relationships are about building each other up, and making each other better. But I can’t build up anyone else if I’m not done constructing myself. When the time is right, I will find the perfect guy. That might be in college, or it might be ten years from now. Honestly I’m not that worried about it, becuase I know someone is looking out for me.
So enjoy this time. Like I tell everyone, you only get to be eighteen once. Whether you want to enjoy this time with a significant other, or with those life long friends you’re making. It doesn’t matter. What actually matters is that you’re happy, and you’re doing what’s best for you.