They say that college is about “finding yourself” and trust me, after nearly three full years I have taken on many distinct personas, personalities, identities—whatever you want to call it. But this year is different. After much deliberation I am finally the person I truly want to be; happy. The journey I took toward happiness was difficult and riddled with obstacles and ordinarily I would have given up by this point. Luckily I didn’t and by realizing a few important things this year I can honestly say that I am the happiest I’ve been during my college career.
1. Embrace your true interests.
In the past I have spent time trying out many activities and hobbies that I thought could potentially be interesting, but mostly I partook in activities that all my friends did because I was scared of going anywhere by myself. This year I finally learned that it’s okay to go places alone and someone will always talk to you if you have a smile on your face and are willing to meet new people. I have finally started doing things that I thoroughly enjoy and my days have been brighter.
2. Cut out negative energy.
“Breaking up” with friends whose only goal is to bring you down is one of the most important aspects of being happy that I learned this year. The Negative Nancy’s of the world shouldn’t influence you in the slightest. Cutting out negativity and focusing on positivity by surrounding myself with people who radiate good energy has helped me become a happier, healthier person.
3. Save time for free time.
The past few years have been extremely hectic as I have been getting adjusted to college. This year is, truthfully, just as busy but I have learned how to properly allocate my time so that I’m not spending the entire day on one reading assignment and am able to sit and think about nothing for a while if I want to. Being less stressed has definitely improved my mood and makes me feel better everyday.
4. Be unapologetically yourself.
I know, super cliché, but bear with me. Once I finally realized that no one’s opinion about me matters (besides my mom, who is always right no matter what) I became a much happier person. Instead of spending time focused on what people think about me and what I think they value, I can dedicate time to embracing everything about myself that I value.