This show is known for its exotic and over-the-top dates, and crazy ways of falling in love in less than a month. It’s sometimes critiqued for its ridiculousness, but there are also lessons that you can learn from the underlying messages of The Bachelor, and some that may help you more than you know.
1) First dates are not opportunities to express how much you are in love with them.You barely know them, pouring your heart out on the first date makes them figure you out before you even get the chance to tell your story.
2) It doesn’t only matter how great they are to you, they need to be a good person to the world as well.The person you’re dating may be sweet to you, but it’s also how they treat the waiter, the stranger crossing the street, and about people they don’t get along with that will show you their true colours.
3) Quality conversations are crucial in relationships, not the fancy, exotic dates.If you can have meaningful conversations that last hours in sweatpants in the living room, then you are golden.
4) If he doesn’t “choose” you, it’s for the best.In the end, isn’t love finding someone that will make it last forever? If someone isn’t into you anymore, it’s really for the best. Don’t be offended – why be with someone who didn’t think you were his world?
5) Be goofy.There’s nothing more attractive than someone who is happy and who knows when to laugh at themselves. Happiest girls are the prettiest girls, hands down. Don’t take life so seriously. Care when you need to, but also take each moment for what it is, not for what you wanted it to be.
6) Love isn’t all about make up.Physical attraction is important, but what’s also important is that you be honest about what you look like. If you take hours getting dolled up, what does that say to the guy about what you think of yourself?
7) Catch their attention with your passion, not your resume.Matching your hobbies and tweaking your answers to meet his wants will eventually fade away and may cause problems in the future. Your true self will come through. It’s better to be passionate and expressive about what you do, and hope that the other person either feels the same way, or is mesmerized by your motivation.
8) It’s completely okay to be hopelessly romantic.This show may dramatize romantic ways to fall in love but it also gives us hope. “There are many mediocre things in this world, love shouldn’t be one of them.” – Unknown