Happy! Successful! Cooperative! Children are a total mess at times, but on the hand they can be so sweet and adorable! There is no black and white! In five simple steps, of how to go on about your child(ren), while disciplining less:
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Start where they stump you: There’s a HIDDEN message in your child’s behavior.
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Identify Your Child’s True Nature:
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The Fun – Loving Child!
Primary Connection to the World: Social.
Primary Movement: Bouncy and random.
Primary Need: Have fun and happy parents.
Described As: Friendly, bright, and light – hearted.
Judged As: Flighty, hyperactive, and unreliable.
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The Sensitive Child!
Primary Connection to the World: Emotional.
Primarily Movement: Subtle and thoughtful.
Primary Need: Feelings heard and connected family.
Described As: Gentle, tender, and mindful.
Judged As: Shy, wimpy, and hypersensitive.
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The Determined Child!
Primary Connection to the World: Physical.
Primary Movement: Active and determined.
Primary Need: New experiences and with parents’ support.
Judged As: Pushy, demanding, and loud.
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The More Serious Child!
Primary Connection to the World: Intellectual.
Primary Movement: Straightforward and exact.
Primary Need: Respect, given and received.
Described As: Efficient, analytical and thorough.
Judged As: Critical and a know – it – all.
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Interpret the Tantrum (or fight or rebellion or anger): Your child is telling you something, even if they don’t know how to say it.
Ask yourself….
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Type 1 (the fun – loving child):
Does my child feel overly controlled? Has my child had too much alone time? Is something in my child’s life too serious?
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Type 2 (the sensitive child):
Does my child feel unheard or dismissed? Have my child’s plans been ignored? Is something in my child’s life too intense?
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Type 3 (the determined child):
Does my child lack enough physical outlets? Has my child been told “NO” too often lately? Is something in my child’s life too stifling?
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Type 4 (the more serious child):
Does my child need to feel more respected? Does my child need some time to reflect and focus? Is something is my child’s life embarrassing?
Time to make some changes….
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Be Intuitive, Not Reactive:
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Type 1 (the fun – loving child):
Surprise your child. Facilitate friendship. Have fun with them.
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Type 2 (the sensitive child):
Reassure your child. Give time to relax. Connect with them.
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Type 3 (the determined child):
Encourage your child. Let them move fast. Allow adventure.
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Type 4 (the more serious child):
Respect their authority. Support structure. Focus when listening.
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ENJOY THE JOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know that a lot of parents or soon to be parents have a hard time raising their child, which is completely understandable! Because, children no matter how old have different personalities and not every child is going to be the same! It is always best to get to know your child better and once you do, it will be much easier going from there! I promise you, that everything is going to work out!