Boys, boys, and boys – admit it, boys are on our minds a lot. We are always totally focused on our schoolwork, our clubs, our sports, our friends, and our never ending list of other activities. However boys frequently pop up in our thoughts.
Without any prompting, boys jump into our minds when we are getting ready for class, when we walk around campus, and whenever we least expect it. For this reason, it is understandable that we spend a lot of time thinking about what we want for them. Do you want a relationship? Do you want a “friends with benefits” situation? Do you want a hookup? Do you want a one-night stand?
Whatever you want is totally acceptable and completely normal – no one can tell you what to do with your body. That being said, it is critical to decide what you want before you start getting involved with anyone.
It’s hard on a relationship (a relationship being any of the above types of interactions with a guy), if the people involved are unclear on what they want. If you don’t know what you want and he doesn’t know what he wants, that leads to a lot of confusion and potential for hurt feelings. You don’t want to enter a relationship to then discover that’s not what you want. It’s hurtful to both parties and wasted time you could have been pursuing other things that make you happy, whether another guy or a completely different activity.
On a similar note, it is important to discover your comfort zone when it comes to being intimate. It’s all too easy to go farther than you want to because you don’t know your boundaries. Also, for this reason, you cannot communicate openly with the guy you are with. You can’t tell him what you want if you don’t know. Where your line is, is completely in your hands. No one should push you to do anything you don’t want to and if they do, you should seek someone to talk to.
In the end, finding your line is all about YOU. It’s important to feel comfortable with who you are and your sexuality. No one has the right to put their opinion on you and finding your line is a completely personal and individual choice. Be confident, because those who are truly there for you will support you no matter what.
Photo Sources:
http://thoughtcatalog.com/jessica-blankenship/2013/02/how-to-live-with-your-ex-after-you-break-up/
http://ugaadmissions.blogspot.com/2014/11/uga-early-action-decisions-update.html