The Stages of Fighting With Your BFF As Told By Grey's Anatomy

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We all have that one best friend. The person who will do anything with and for us. The person who we turn to when things are bad, and the person who we turn to when things are good. The person who is not only a friend but is family. The person who will always hold that special place in our hearts, and who we can’t go a day without talking to. Since this person means so much to us, it hurts whenever we get into a fight with them.

The first stage of getting into a fight with our best friend is the feeling that we get when the fight is over. Usually, whenever we get into fights with any other friend, our BFF is the person that we turn to for advice on what to do, or how to fix it. And now since we are in a fight with them, we can’t really just go up to them and ask them what to do. The first stage is usually a mixture of hurt feelings and confusion on what to do next.

The second stage of fighting with your best friend is recognizing that you’re actually tired of fighting with them. Depending on how severe the fight is you might go hours, days, or even weeks before you start talking to your best friend again. Before this limbo, you knew how close you and your BFF were, but now in this limbo, you KNOW just how close you guys really were. You realize just how much you guys texted, how much you talked, how much you hung out, and how much they were there for you. It is at this stage where you start asking the big questions like, is this one fight really worth our friendship? And should I just swallow my pride and just apologize already?  

The third and final stage of fighting with your BFF is realizing that they are your BFF and nothing should come in between your friendship. If you were in the wrong, then apologizing to them, and making them feel as if their feelings are heard is very important. If they were in the wrong and still haven’t apologized yet you have a couple of options. Being the first to try to communicate, try to use a mutual friend to communicate, or realize that you don’t want a friend who will hurt you and then not apologize for it. Either way, things will be okay, and it is important to listen to others feelings and have your feelings heard.

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Currently a Junior at Appalachian State University. I am a double major in Public Relation and Journalism with a minor in psychology. My dream job would be to work for the FBI. I am also part of the Pi Kappa Chapter of Chi Omega, and I love to smile and make a difference in people's lives.

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