As collegiettes in the 21st century, we’re presented with so many ways to flirt with guys without actually having to flirt with them in person. Technology makes it easy: “like” a guy’s Instagram photo, Facebook chat with him and he could be yours! But technology can complicate things, too. With apps like Tinder and Snapchat, it’s easy to accidentally cross the line from casual flirtations to cringe-worthy interactions. So how do you know where the line is when it comes to Snapchat? We asked college guys like Penn State sophomore Jake Adams, University of Richmond junior Andrew Valenski and Temple senior Nate Bronson to offer some insight on what they and their male friends are into (and not-so-into) when it comes to getting Snapchats from collegiettes: the annoying, the weird and the scandalous.
1. The Never-Ending Snapchat Series
Maybe you think that the guy you’re talking to wants to know what you’re doing all day at work. Or maybe you just happen to look really good and want him to see your good hair day as much as possible. Either way, Andrew says that you shouldn’t send too many Snapchats to a guy if you don’t want to annoy him.
“It’s not like sending one every once in a while is bad,” says Andrew. “But when you start getting more than three from the same person in a day it’s like, ‘alright, you’ve gotta calm down, girl.’”
Nate agrees: “I hate when a girl sends me a picture of every task she does all day long. I don’t need to see every thing you check off your to-do list from breakfast to bedtime.”
Andrew says that if a guy wants to get more Snapchats from you, he’ll send you some that require a response. “If a guy sends you one with a question or one that elicits an easy response, then he wants you to send one back to him. If you see he opened it and he didn’t respond, it’s probably better to wait until he sends one to you to send another his way.”
2. The Trying-too-Hard Snapchat
You know how on Instagram girls will hashtag things like “#Nomakeup” and “#Nofilter” when they’re clearly wearing makeup and using Valencia? Super annoying, right? Well, Andrew says the same principle can apply to Snapchats.
“If you get a Snapchat from a girl whose makeup is perfect and who clearly just did her hair and has crazy cleavage going on, you know that she tried hard to look good in that Snapchat,” Andrew says. “So to make a moderately gross face, like sticking your tongue out, then caption it ‘gross!’ when you’ve obviously worked hard to look cute… It just kind of leaves a bad taste in your mouth, like this girl’s trying too hard.”
Andrew emphasizes that he doesn’t care whether a girl’s wearing makeup or not. “Look like whatever you want, just don’t act like you look terrible when you put forth effort to look good,” he says. “Either own it or just don’t acknowledge it.”
Jake says he doesn’t mind if a girl looks pretty, but that a thousand Snapchats of her with the exact same facial expression get annoying. “I get it, she looks good with her head tilted to the right and a close-mouthed smile. But I don’t need to see it 10 times a day.”
Nate just has one rule when it comes to a girl’s appearance in a Snapchat: “No duck faces.”
3. The Bodily Functions Snapchat
This one seems pretty obvious, right? Maybe if you’re bros with a guy you can do this with him, but if you’re pursuing a relationship with him, you should probably avoid sending him a 10-second video of you belching the ABC’s.
“I think some girls think guys will respect them more if they own this gross stuff or something, and I mean, I know girls poop… I just don’t want to get a Snapchat of them on the toilet doing so,” Andrew says.
Just in case you were thinking of making a Snapchat version of that “Sittin On Tha Toilet” video… don’t.