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5 Sneaky Ways To Get His Attention

7/23/2014

Flirting is an art all collegiettes should learn. It’s tricky; you have to walk the fine line between letting a guy know you’re interested and coming off too strong. There are some ways to get his attention, but if you don’t know what to do short of screaming, “I want to have your babies!” (note: we would advise against this direct method), don’t worry! There are definitely subtler ways to get him to notice you. We spoke to flirting and communications expert Rachel DeAlto for some tips and asked college guys about subtle ways girls have gotten their attention!

1. Flash Him a Smile

Happiness attracts people, and college guys are no exception.

“No one wants to flirt with or date someone miserable,” DeAlto says. She warns collegiettes to be careful of “resting b*tch face” (when you think your face is supposed to be in neutral, resting mode, but you appear to look angry or miserable). “It will make you completely unapproachable,” she warns. Look in the mirror and see how your face naturally falls when you’re not smiling. Try to soften your features and make a conscious effort to smile.

Former HC RLCG Sean McFarland agrees that smiling does the trick. “Smiling goes a LONG way,” he says. “When a girl just smiles when talking in normal conversation, it drives me nuts.”

6 Signs You’re Too Picky With Guys (& How to Stop)

6/24/2014

Every girl deserves a good guy, but let’s be realistic–there’s only one Ryan Gosling, and he’s not available to most of us. No, it’s not wrong to have standards, but are your standards impossible to reach? Are you so focused on your path to the perfect guy that you can’t see the imperfect-but-perfect-for-you guy outside your blinders?

Gillian*, a recent graduate of Kwantlen Polytechnic University, is familiar with friends who have sky-high expectations and says seeing them pass up good guys is frustrating.

“I think that people today are so fixated on finding Mr. or Mrs. Right... that we completely overlook the wonderful people who are right there in front of us,” she says. “One [of my friends] has been alone for as long as I've known her because no one meets her physical standards. And I have another who has dated everyone she knows for a short period of time, but she's constantly trying to 'upgrade,' so she's never happy.”

But what are some signs that you, like Gillian’s friends, have sky-high expectations preventing you from seeing the great guy right in front of you?

1. You Can’t Put Your Finger on Why He’s Not Good Enough

You say “he’s just not my type,” but you can’t come up with concrete reasons why. You might not even have a defined “type,” you just know that whatever it is, he’s not it. Translation? You don’t actually know what you want, and not knowing what you want means you’ll never be satisfied in a relationship.

Genderqueer: Questioning Your Gender Identity In College

6/18/2014

When you leave the office to go to the restroom, you head to the ladies’ room. For most people, it’s something we don’t really think about. From birth, our gender has (in a lot of ways) established a core part of our identity. Society likes to tie our biological parts with our habits, likes, and dislikes: Girls wear pink and play with dolls; boys wear blue and play with cars. Women love to shop for designer shoes and men are obsessed with all things sports. But for some people, the lines between male and female are not so defined, and the societal definitions can be restricting.

If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t fit into society’s definition of “male” or “female,” you’re not alone. We spoke to Robin Parry, an education and outreach community developer at QMUNITY, a queer resource center in British Columbia; and Andrew Rabasse, the founder and coordinator for the genderqueer Vancouver community group at QMUNITY.

What does “genderqueer” mean?

While we are all born with a biological sex, gender refers to characteristics and behaviors that define us as either masculine or feminine in society. These could be things like wearing makeup as a feminine characteristic or acting tough as a masculine trait.

“Gender expression is how one outwardly manifests gender, by means such as name and pronoun choice, style of dress, voice modulation,” Parry says. “How one expresses gender might not necessarily reflect one’s actual gender identity.”

10 Ways to Relax After the School Year

5/12/2014

You’ve taken your finals, the school year is over and summer is finally here—woohoo! But you've spent so many late nights cramming and early study sessions in the library that you forgot what it's like to relax. All you want to do is book an appointment for a full body massage and facial at the spa, but your bank account won't allow it. Here we have 10 affordable ways to decompress—something your body and mind deserve after a long, hard school year!

1. Read for pleasure

After months of sticking your nose in academic texts, you might have sworn you’d never read again. But reading for pleasure can be a great way to relax. Light fictional reads can help you escape the daily grind. Curl up on the couch with a good chick-lit (try A Paris Apartment by Michelle Gable), get lost in a mystery novel (The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo series or Dan Brown novels), or even erotic novel (Fifty Shades of Grey, anyone?). Whatever the genre, some good fiction reads can transport you to another world.

2. Turn up the tunes

A McGill University study found that music can improve your mood, according to Best Health Blog. Not only that, but it also has the ability to improve your immune system and reduce pain and anxiety at the same time! So whether your musician of choice is Beethoven or Britney Spears or Drake, listen to music that you can enjoy.

How To Move On From Your Ex For Good

5/7/2014

The break-up was bad and you decided you can’t be friends with your ex. Still, you’re aware of every new picture he’s uploaded on Facebook, his tweets keep popping up on your timeline and you can’t help but text him when you get lonely. It’s hard to let go of someone you cared so deeply for, but you know what you need to get over him: a clean break. 

After being so close to someone, it will, undeniably, take time and effort to break the habits you’ve built while being together (constantly texting, phone calls every day, maybe being attached at the hip). Though easier said than done, it’s definitely not impossible. So how do you really let go? We spoke to collegiettes who learned some important lessons on how to finally cut ties with their exes — for good.

Don’t forget why you broke up

Whether it was you or him that called it off, someone wanted it to end and there was a reason. Collegiette Katie realized she had to cut ties with her ex-boyfriend after regretting a drunken hook-up with him on a lonely night.

“I just kept thinking of the reasons why we broke up: he didn’t treat me right, he owed me a lot of money, he hated my friends, et cetera,” says Katie. I just kept thinking of the bad things and how they outweighed the good when I think about the good things it made me want to go back to him. I made myself realize that I am better than that.”

Keep reminders of the pain

Meeting Your Boyfriend’s Parents For The First Time: Dos & Don’ts

5/6/2014

The end of the semester is coming up and whether you’re excited or dreading it, it's time to meet your boyfriend’s parents. Nervous might not begin to explain what you're feeling, but don't sweat. We’ve compiled a list of dos and don’ts that you must follow when coming face-to-face with your boyfriend’s parents for the first time.

DO dress appropriately

First impressions are important and part of that is how you dress.

"A night out with the girls and meeting the parents are two different occasions," warns Mariah Moses, a collegiette at Virginia State University.

Ask your boyfriend how conservative his parents are. You don't want to offend anyone by showing too much skin or wearing attire with images or language that might be seen as rude. You might want to avoid clothing that promotes violence or is overtly sexual. To be safe, lean on the conservative side until you get to know them better.

If you're meeting at a fancy restaurant, wear an appropriate dress. Don't wear stilettos if you're expected to do a lot of walking. This is important, as Emma*, a student at Skidmore College, discovered.

"My ex-boyfriend lives on a horse farm, but when I went to meet his parents for the first time I forgot to bring any shoes that were good for trekking through the dirt. I had to borrow my ex's little sister's shoes. I definitely gave the first impression that I was high-maintenance and it took a while to convince his parents that I really wasn't!"

DON'T arrive late to meet them

Vaginal Discharge: What’s Normal & What’s Not?

4/25/2014

Sometimes we are not sure what's going on down there, but paying attention to your vaginal discharge can possibly save your life. Although it is a normal thing, it can also point to signs that you need to see a doctor. So when should you be concerned? We spoke to Dr. Patricia Mirwaldt, director of student health service at the University of British Columbia, to get the 4-1-1 on vaginal discharge.

What Is Vaginal Discharge?

Vaginal discharge is a normal part of our reproductive system. In fact, we start to get discharge once we start our periods. The purpose of discharge is to clear out dead cells and bacteria, according to WebMD. Normal discharge is usually clear or white. However, your discharge can change slightly, depending on the phase of your menstrual cycle, the amount of fluids you consume and the type of medication you're on (decongestants and antidepressants can dry out vaginal secretions, and antibiotics can change your discharge), says Dr. Mirwaldt.

Here is (generally) what to expect:

A couple of days after your period has ended, there will be little to no discharge. Later you’ll start to develop more (usually clear or “can look and be as stringy as egg whites," says Dr. Mirwaldt) and it will last 14 days until the next period. "And then the discharge tends to get thicker, hard to see through and more clumpy than stringy," says Dr. Mirwaldt.

7 Sneaky Ways Stress Could Be Hurting Your Body

3/21/2014

Though some of us work well under stress, the unwanted side effects can get pretty ugly. It might give you that push you need to get your best work done, but is it causing more harm than good? Even though you might think you can handle the lack of sleep and added pressure, there are other more serious side effects that you can experience that should make you think twice about freaking yourself out before every exam.

We spoke to Dr. Kenford Nedd, president of the International Stress Control Centre, about the negative effects that stress can have on our body. Think another stressful cramming session will be worth it? Think again.

1. Jaw problems

You may not be aware of it, but stress could be causing you to grind your teeth at night.

Rachel Lytle, former HC Campus Correspondent for Penn State University, spent five amazing months studying abroad in Spain, only to return home to realize that the stress of being out of her comfort zone had caused damage to her teeth.

“When I got home that summer, I went to the dentist for a routine check-up and they told me that I have been grinding [and] clenching my teeth in my sleep. I had no idea I did this, but the proof on my teeth doesn’t lie.”

While Rachel now wears a night guard when she sleeps, Alyse Schember from California Polytechnic State University takes ibuprofen to relieve the pain of grinding her teeth.

7 Signs He’s Never Going to Commit

2/20/2014

They say relationships are complicated, but non-relationships can be just as complicated — if not more so. Are you still hoping that your friend with benefits or recent hook-up will ask you to be his girlfriend? His motives might be a mystery, but there are some obvious clues that you should look out for. If you’re wondering if your guy will ever officially become your guy, we’ve come up with a list of seven signs that say he might never commit.

1. He has a reputation for being a player.

“He avoided telling me where he was going and what he was doing,” says Soniya*, a junior at Carnegie Mellon University, who later found out that her friend with benefits was also busy wooing another girl while hooking up with her. “I should have guessed he was with someone else and that was why our hook-ups always took place at random times, like Sunday afternoons or Tuesday nights.”

Dr. Carole Lieberman, author of Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them & When to Leave Them, warns us to stay far away from a player — no matter how hot he is.

“If you think you'll be the one to tame a guy who has a reputation for being a player, think again,” she says. “These guys hide deep-seated psychological reasons for not committing to one girl — such as insecurities about their desirability — that only a therapist could change.”

2. He only wants to hook up and he’s not interested in getting to know you.

Looking back in hindsight, Soniya noticed a few signs she should have paid attention to when she started hooking up with her best guy friend. One of the signs was that the whole relationship (or non-relationship in this case) revolved around hooking up.

6 Bad Eating Habits You Picked Up In College (& How to Fix Them)

2/20/2014

There’s a reason collegiettes gain the infamous Freshman 15. Whether it’s the stress of classes, the busyness of trying to balance a full course load and a social life, or the seemingly unavoidable late-night snack temptations, there are so many aspects of college life that can lead us to develop some pretty poor eating habits. And here’s the kicker:  once we’ve started, it’s not so easy to stop, especially when our schedules are as busy as ever. We talked to collegiettes to find out what bad eating habits you’ve picked up and got some expert advice from Vancouver-based nutritionist Elizabeth Campbell on how to turn these habits into healthier ones.

Bad Habit #1: Developing a dependence on coffee

Many of us feel like we need coffee in order to keep us alert for our early morning classes. If you’re relying on the caffeine in your coffee to get you through the day, you’re not the only one.

Phyu-Sin Than, a junior at Mount Holyoke College, who recently bought a coffee maker for her room, also has a self-described dependence on coffee. “I've picked up drinking coffee a lot, which suppresses hunger, and that's not healthy. I'd be too busy to sit down and have a proper meal, so I usually end up snacking and having coffee a lot of the times.”