To the girl who thinks she needs a boy to be happy,
We know how you may be feeling and we know it is hard. You may find yourself constantly craving the love and affection that was present in a past relationship––after experiencing something so great, how is it even possible to live without it?
When you put your trust in someone and they let you down, you may find yourself searching for that “next one” to fill the void. This pattern isn’t just mentally and physically exhausting, but it can also destroy every ounce of self-confidence that you have.
It’s easy to feel alone sometimes. After all, when you find yourself hours away from home, buried in schoolwork and other responsibilities, life can be extremely stressful. You might feel a desperate need for “someone” who can bring you a source of comfort that seems to be lacking in your life. However, you have to believe in the power of fate.
In all aspects of life––especially love––anything you have to force is probably not truly meant to be. Do not place your emotional well-being into someone who, deep down, you know isn’t right for you. More importantly, don’t trick yourself into settling for less than you deserve in moments of vulnerability.
Boys are not band-aids. You don’t have to ignite a new flame to heal the burn of an old flame. Time is the best medicine and it makes you so much stronger in the end.
The first step in loving someone else is wholeheartedly loving yourself. Never convince yourself that the reason why you’re single is because you’re not good enough for someone. Everybody has a plan––maybe yours is just taking a little longer to be put into action. Once you start embracing all the great things in your life, you will surely be on the road to true happiness. As your independence grows, your confidence will grow right along with it. After all, the best relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself.
You have a lifetime ahead of you and you will encounter many different people along the way. Not just in relationships, but in life as a whole, the best things happen when you least expect them. Good things come to those who wait and you deserve the best!