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I began hooking up with one of my best guy friends and then, all of a sudden, he stopped speaking to me. I’ve run into him a few times, but I feel so awkward that I haven’t even approached it. If he were some random guy, I’d be over it by now, but it’s my best friend. How can I approach the situation when he doesn’t want to speak to me? — Friendship Gone Wrong at Florida State
Just let him be… for now. You two flipped your friendship’s whole dynamic on its head when you started hooking up, so expect the awkwardness. However, the only way to break that is to chill, gather your thoughts, and approach him after time has passed.
I’ll assume from your email that you didn’t want to take the friendship to the next level and all you two were doing was hooking up. That being the case, try to meet up with him when you think the awkwardness has cooled off. Take the lead because he could be unable and/or unwilling.
Make sure to keep this rendezvous casual—meaning, don’t make it any more awkward by talking about when you hooked up, why he stopped talking to you, etc. Leave those subjects for a later date, assuming you both can re-break the ice. And this can be done in a number of settings, whether it be a coffee date, lunch or even a chat in between classes. Just remember to keep the topics and the settings loose.
Don’t stress too much over it. Give yourselves time, approach him and go from there.