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Wellness > Sex + Relationships

The A**hole- O-Meter: The Fine Line Between Being “Too Nice Guy” and Just Being an A**hole

Is it really true that all girls love a**holes?
 
I hope not, but it is safe to admit that we cringe when a guy is “too nice.” Remember that episode in the final season of Sex and the City when the Russian writes Carrie a song on the piano? Yeah, that episode was called “The Ick Factor.”
 
But I hate to say, “Nice guys finish last,” because don’t we all think we want a nice guy?
 
What we really want is the perfect balance of sweet and protective, but without being corny and possessive. Or the perfect balance of chivalrous and manly, but without being dated and aggressive. Or the perfect balance of playing the game without playing us.
 
It definitely seems like all the guys who manage to be sweet without being “too nice” are found in romantic comedies, and all the guys who are huge a**holes are found right across campus. Check out these moves pulled by real college guys across America – you can’t make this stuff up.
 
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Sources: My friends, classmates, and Her Campus writers


Joanna Buffum is a senior English major and Anthropology minor at Bowdoin College in Brunswick, Maine.  She is from Morristown, NJ and in the summer of 2009 she was an advertising intern for OK! Magazine and the editorial blog intern for Zagat Survey in New York City. This past summer she was an editorial intern for MTV World's music website called MTV Iggy, writing fun things like album and concert reviews for bands you have never heard of before. Her favorite books are basically anything involving fantasy fiction, especially the Harry Potter series and “Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell” by Susanna Clarke. In her free time she enjoys snowboarding, playing intramural field hockey, watching House MD, and making paninis. In the spring of 2010 she studied abroad in Copenhagen, Denmark, and she misses the friendly, tall, and unusually attractive Danish people more than she can say. After college, she plans on pursuing a career in writing, but it can be anywhere from television script writing, to magazine journalism, to book publishing.