5 Relationship Party Fouls (& How to Recover)

By the time Friday night rolls around, you’re probably thinking one of these things: “Do my hair and makeup look ok? Should I clear a path to my bed for my drunk self? Are there going to be any cute guys at this party tonight?” That last question is probably the one you’re most preoccupied with. Parties can be a great place to meet guys, but beware: if you commit one of these party faux pas, you may be turning him off before you have a chance to move forward. Read on for the five relationship party fouls and how to avoid them.
 
Party Foul 1: You’ve been talking to the same guy all night.
 
It’s easy to get wrapped up in one guy all night. You find a guy you click with and he’s cute, charming, and nice… why bother chatting up anyone else? Think again. If you’re hanging on him—and only him—all night, there’s a big chance you’re going to come off as either 1) friendless or 2) a clinger.  Not cute.
 
Avoid the problem: Check in with your girlfriends every now and again. They may know something about the guy you’ve just met or maybe they need you to step in to save them from a lame dude. Move around the party and keep your options open. Plus, guys want to work for your attention, so make them work for it!

Damage control: The party’s over… now what? I don’t advocate playing games, but guys are competitive by nature. Make him work for your time. Wait a few minutes before texting him back. Don’t cancel prior plans to hang out with him; suggest another time. And if you’re not getting a good vibe? Move on. Shannon*, a junior at the University of Michigan, explains, “I met a ‘nice guy’ during welcome week this year and stayed with him for the remainder of the night. It resulted in a nice night of conversation, a party partner, some text exchanges, and a few meaningless hook-ups. But then when I tried to text him a few weeks later, he didn't respond. I eventually gave it up and deleted his number.”
 
Party Foul 2: You got too drunk and are getting tons of attention… in all the wrong ways.
 

Alcohol can be fun. It lowers inhibitions, makes us tell the truth, and encourages us to do things we wouldn’t otherwise do. We all know the saying, though: too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. Like when you’re getting so many drinks you can’t see straight, but you’re pretty sure boys are looking south of your face. If you’re looking to have a good time for one night only, by all means, keep doing what you’re doing (safely!). But if you’re looking for more commitment, watch out: if you’re so drunk you’re throwing yourself at any guy, you’ll come off as someone who can’t (or won’t) commit.
 
Avoid the problem: Give yourself an alcohol limit. If you’re worried you won’t be able to enforce it, employ a friend to hold you accountable. Sick of getting the wrong kind of attention? Meet up with the group you came with. They’ll provide a buffer between you and the big spenders who are “generously” buying you all these drinks.
 
Damage control: If the boy is contacting you in the days that follow, make your intentions clear. If you’re looking for something more serious, steer the conversation toward hanging out sans alcohol (at least at the beginning of the night). If you don’t feel like dealing with the guy, you have two options: 1) simply don’t text him back—he’ll eventually get the hint—or 2) be honest and say something like, “When we met, it wasn’t my finest moment, but that’s not the kind of girl I am.” (Because it’s not!)