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10 Times Phoebe Buffay Read Our Minds

Friends is one of America’s most beloved shows of all time, and there is a good reason it is! The comedy series features six characters, all of whom have distict and totally loveable personalities, and hilarious plot lines. While binge-watching the show, I could not help but notice how perfect Phoebe Buffet (Lisa Kudrow)’s character reacts to situations that we, as collegiettes, have. Her Campus UCSD takes you through 10 moments in which we felt like Phoebe read our minds.



This basically sums up our college careers. We have unpaid internships, volunteer work, and our huge piles of debt to deal with. If you want to hang out with us in public, please give us money.


Phoebe kind of sounds like the Spice Girls in this quote…or did the Spice Girls sound like Phoebe? Either way, we know it is true that we need to value our friends because relationships come and go; friends are for life.

3. Bless Phoebe for speaking our minds to the peers who always have to be right. We all have a friend who is super stubborn and always feels the need to be right. Quite frankly, we don’t understand why they can’t listen to other people’s opinions or ideas. Although we can’t change the person, it feels good to know that Phoebe set Ross straight.


We aren’t saying that you are going on Tinder dates for free meals, but we are talking about that little hope that your date will buy you something. Whether it is a fancy meal, a movie ticket, or something as simple as ice cream, Phoebe knows what she is talking about. Regardless of whether or not the guy is our lobster, we still like to be shown that we are cared for and worth his hard earned money.


Finals week? We don’t even have a “pla”. 


Whether it is you who is changing, your friends who are changing, or your situation that is changing, Phoebe gets us; Change is hard. However, just as she adapts to every situation, we see ourselves adapting as well. Sometimes change is for the better, sometimes its for the worse. However, one thing that is for sure is, we will be growing and learning about ourselves. 


This quote applies to so many aspects of the collegiette life. Sometimes we are utterly shocked by our exam questions, and sometimes we are stunned by stories of what happened last weekend. Phoebe’s surprised and angry facial expressions, along with the screaming tone, perfectly conveys our very own feelings in these situations.

8. After a break up or a fight with friends/family, Phoebe’s song should be on repeat. Phoebe has been through some rough and odd relationships, and while I never had to give birth to triplets for my step-brother, and I hope none of you did too, I’m sure we all had our fair share of people’s love crapping on our hearts. From Phoebe, we learn that in order to move on or mend the wound, we need to stop moping, pick up a guitar, and write a song to let our feelings out.


When people take one look at a woman and decide that she cannot handle what is entitled in a job description, PREACH PHOEBE PREACH. Whether you claim you are a feminist or not, it feels horrible knowing that you will not be getting the same respect as some other people receive. Phoebe knows she looks beautiful, but at the same time, she knows what she is capable of. Just as she did, we should not be still and accept society’s condescending view on women. Like Phoebe, we should show the world that we won’t quit either.


The song goes, “Smelly cat, smelly cat; What are they feeding you?; Smelly cat, smelly cat; It’s not your fault!”. While we don’t need to dig so deep into Phoebe’s random songs, if you take a sociological perspective on the lyrics, it seems like Phoebe is telling people that sometimes you aren’t in unfavorable situations because of yourself, but because of your circumstances and the situations you are put in. Or maybe Phoebe is really talking about a smelly cat. That works too.

Jasmine is currently a senior at the University of California, San Diego. She is pursuing a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and a minor in Education Studies. Jasmine is the Co-Campus Correspondent for Her Campus UCSD, along with the amazing Taylor Zepeda. Jasmine spends most of her time volunteering at low socioeconomic status elementary schools across the San Diego county and grading papers for classes she is a Teacher's Assistant in. Novel wise, she is an avid fan of Edith Wharton and the Lord of the Rings series. She also loves comedic shows like New Girl and The Big Bang Theory, but also enjoys thrillers like Criminal Minds. One of Jasmine's favorite hobbies is trying foods of different cultures; she loves visiting cultural nights and community festivals. Above all, Jasmine worships Beyonce (a.k.a. Beysus, Queen Bee, Baeyonce, etc). Her future aspiration in life is to become the Secretary of Education and have the Hov and B over for dinners.
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