I have been the replacement girlfriend many times. I am the girl who fills in when the girlfriend isn’t around. I know that a lot of girls have been threatened by that. I promise if I am your boyfriend’s replacement girlfriend, I am not interested in your boyfriend. I would be a terrible friend to him if I was.
The replacement girlfriend helps pick out birthday presents for the actual girlfriend. The replacement girlfriend goes to the movies that the real girlfriend doesn’t want to go to. If the boyfriend needs advice about his relationship and wants a female’s opinion, the replacement girlfriend points him in the right direction.
Replacement girlfriends are more common than people think. In many cases the replacement may have her own boyfriend. A guy, (who could also be considered a fill in) and a girl, have a very complex relationship. There are times that it may come off as flirtatious at times, but often it means nothing. Often that is just the way that their relationship has evolved.
I have found that it is often the replacement girlfriend who helps train the boyfriend. She tells him when he has an annoying habit. This is the person who tells him what makes a good date or what makes a good conversation topic. The replacement girlfriend is the girl who helps him pick out his clothes until the real girlfriend comes along. As an experienced, replacement girlfriend, I can tell you that we are the ones to whip them into shape, making it way easier to deal with them later on.
There is the slightest risk that the replacement could become something more but that means that she was never a very good fill in. The line was crossed and that is a very big deal. That line should be bigger than the Berlin Wall. The fill in girl needs to be aware of that line and the girlfriend needs to have some sympathy. If the fill in has a crush on the guy, it is probably very painful. Most likely, the guy is oblivious to her feelings and she is trying very hard not to make her feelings obvious. If she is a good friend, she probably will not make a move.
The girlfriend and the replacement girlfriend don’t have to be friends, but it does make life easier. Work as a team, you both want to be in this guy’s life, you both care about him and he doesn’t want to choose. He shouldn’t have to. He needs each of you for different reasons. The girlfriend should not be concerned that he tells the fill in things that he doesn’t tell her. The fill in is safe and she is his friend. There are things he tells his guy friends, and the replacement girl should be considered a similar situation.
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Le Moyne chapter.