The Atlantic states that women in general are less self-confident than their male counterparts. Women are less assured of their abilities and worth. As a female in college, it is important realize that you are just as capable as everyone else.
College is a time to learn not only about your major, but also about yourself. Understanding who you are is an important component of growing up, but self-awareness takes patience. The sea of your mind is a wondrous place and takes a lifetime to explore. The knowledge you have of yourself increases when you start to pay attention to the environments you’re in and how certain places make you feel. Self-awareness helps build character, exchange ideas with someone, and re-evaluate your own behavior. You can teach yourself to be optimistic and surround yourself with like-minded, goal-oriented people.
The most important step to living a satisfying life is learning how to create your own bliss. You can choose to find enjoyment in anything as long as you’re motivated to do so. Once you are content with yourself and what surrounds you, you may be ready to share your happiness with another person.
You might desire to have a relationship with someone but are afraid of the dating scene. Naturally, you would be reluctant to open up about yourself when you first start seeing someone out of fear of judgment. The waves inside your mind fill your head with self-doubt. You hesitate to reveal raw emotions to anyone out of fear of rejection. Self-doubt and uncertainty get the best of you, and you think that you are not capable of finding someone who believes you’re worth their time, causing you to over analyze every interaction you have with the person you are interested in. You would rather distance yourself from them and stay stationed in your comfort zone.
However, it is vital for you to take chances and remain transparent to establish a close relationship with any person you encounter. Gradually, you will learn how to open your heart and mind. Letting someone sail into the deep waters of your mind is a risk you have to take if you want to build a true authentic relationship with a person.
Authenticity is an integral part of any interpersonal relationship. If you desire a significant other, you would want them to learn what makes you unique and for them to feel comfortable confiding in you. You equally desire that same open communication. If you want someone to consider your needs, you must be considerate of their feelings, as well. If you want a shoulder to cry on, be one. If you want an ear to listen, lend yours first. Before you pursue someone, you must value yourself. You must accept and be content with who you are instead of relying on someone else to provide that wholeness for you. Remember you do not need to be in a relationship with someone to feel validated.
After being comfortable with who you are, you may seek out a partner that will want to support you in your endeavors. According to a survey conducted by the Independent Women’s Forum, 65 percent of college women hope to meet their spouse in college.Before a relationship occurs, both you and your significant other should attempt to build a connection. For the sake of being compatible, you might feel compelled to saying you are into something that you actually have no interest in, but potential partners should NOT have to change themselves to receive approval. Your significant other should love you for you.
In a healthy relationship, both individuals need to make an effort to learn and care for one another. The person you wish to date should also respect themselves, you, and everyone they encounter. Basic human decency is important, and you must be kind to all who cross your path. When it comes to relationships you want someone who equally treats others with respect and kindness.
We might pursue a hobby, listen to music, have a favorite book, and or invest numerous hours into bingeing our favorite T.V. series. Find things you love to enjoy on your own and your partner should admire you in your element. They should want to know the things that matter to you and if they don’t bother, they might not be endearing as you think.
It’s easier said than done, but when it comes to relationships, you and the person you wish to be in a relationship with have to love yourselves before you seek love from another. You both should see all of the potential in yourselves and encourage one another to work diligently towards your goals.
The point is, there HAS to be something that motivates us to keep going. We must have something or someone in our lives that we care deeply about. You and your partner should want to experience the things you love together and attempt to experience new things together. Investing time in new experiences as a couple can help you learn from one another. You both also have to be comfortable with alone time and continuing to experience things on your own.