*BUZZ BUZZ*
A notification pops up on your iPhone that reads, “You have a new Tinder message from John.”
John messages you, “UR hot,” or something along those lines.
The conversation is less than anything intelligent, in fact, you’ve lost brain cells over it. He doesn’t get your humor and sarcasm over text because it doesn’t transfer well. So you’re forced to swipe when you’re bored and have mediocre interactions with boys in fraternities you wouldn’t ever talk to in public.
Just stop, you’re wasting your time and 2018 is not about wasting anymore time on any Chad, Brad or Steven that can’t use the right form of your and you’re.
I’m not one to actually take Tinder seriously. It’s no eHarmony; I’m not going to find Mr. Right on there (maybe Mr. Right Now but that’s a different story). But I’ll admit, it’s fun to swipe through and have weird conversations with guys you would never approach at an actual bar; if they actually can hold a conversation.
One of my New Year’s resolutions for 2018 is to actually be more social in real life than on social media. That required me to delete BOTH my Tinder and Bumble accounts. It wasn’t hard; it was too easy in fact. Though during times of boredom I was tempted to redownload and swipe through it just so I had something to keep me preoccupied.
So far I’m two weeks into the new year and I’m actually thriving.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m outgoing, “social butterfly” is my middle name. BUT if it’s a guy that I find attractive, HA no thank you; I’ll just stand in the corner and sip my double tequila sunrise while I flip through Snapchat. Deleting Tinder made me step out of my comfort zone. I couldn’t just text “Dexter” on Tinder to come to the bar I’m at and meet me by the DJ booth. I had to physically walk over to “Dexter” who was already at the bar and talk to him, like IRL. Sure, after a few times it was scary; I’m sure I almost saw the white light a few times, but I slowly became a pro and even gained some slight confidence in the end.
How did I do it? Liquid courage helped the first few times but in reality, swallowing my fear and diving face first is the only way to get over the fear of approaching attractive people. And what I’ve realized is they end up being more nervous than I am. A girl with the confidence of a Super Bowl champion just approached them, of course they’re going to be scared. Basically, just have confidence and if you don’t have any, liquid courage it till you do.
My point? Delete your Tinder and Bumble. It’s better to socialize with attractive guys in public anyway, plus you won’t be disappointed if they don’t look like their profile picture.
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