We’ve all been there before, or maybe your first break-up hasn’t come yet. Either way, break-ups are not always the easiest thing to get over because you’ve gotten so used to being around that one special person and investing all of your time and energy into a relationship. No one ever plans for a break-up, so here are a few tips on how to get over them!
Know that it’s okay to grieve, but don’t drown in self-pity
You should give yourself no more than a week to sit in your room and cry all day. It’s okay to grieve and feel upset, however, you must accept your new found singleness and get through it like a champ. You have to pick yourself up and come to the realization that being with that person was not the only person on the Earth. You’ll be fine with or without them, so get back to loving yourself and putting the pieces of your heart back together.
No love songs. At all.
The only way to get out of your feelings is to do just that. Get out of your feelings. Stop listening to love songs for at least a month. Music is a powerful weapon. Delete any song that reminds you of your ex. Sounds extreme, yes, but know that it will be well worth it. The last thing you would want to do is hear a song that reminds you of your relationship and get stuck reminiscing, with tears rolling down your face. So before that monstrosity happens, do yourself a favor and DELETE the love songs from your playlist.
Delete, delete, delete. Delete all that… Stuff
Remember, out of sight…out of mind! How can you possibly get over your ex when you’re constantly exposing yourself to what used to be? Thank God for the delete, block, and unfollow button. In the moment it may feel bittersweet, but think of it as the first step to closure and happiness. You can’t keep holding on to baggage that doesn’t benefit you at all. Move forward, onward, and upward!
Get your frustration out
After having time to yourself and being in the midst of grieving, talk to a family member and/or best friend about your situation. Get all of your close friends together, have a session and pour out all of your anger and frustration. This doubles as a trash talk session and girls’ bonding night. Have a movie night and indulge in your favorite junk food. You deserve it!
Same phone, who dis?
Congratulations! You’ve gotten through the grieving stage. Don’t you feel like a brand new person? Why not change your hairstyle or get a new wardrobe to match your new attitude? Shopping for a new image or appearance can be really therapeutic and can take your mind off of the situation at hand. Have fun with your style. Be different. When in doubt, shop it out and re-invent yourself.
Treat yoself!
If you have the coins, go and treat yourself to a full spa day. Plan your day from early morning to night. Enjoy a manicure, pedicure, massage, or anything that’ll make you feel relaxed and relieved. All that built up anger and depression is not good for your aura. Throw the toxicity in the trash where it belongs.
Get busy
Get back to doing what you loved doing before your heartbreak: dance, drawing, acting, photography, poetry, even something new. You might have lost yourself in the midst of your breakup up, so it’s about that time you find yourself by doing what you do best.
Forgive but don’t forget
It is imperative that you understand both parts of the break up. Analyze and acknowledge everything that went wrong without beating yourself up about it so that mistakes can be avoided next time around. Forgive your ex, when you’re ready, for your sanity. Don’t blame yourself for what transpired. The only thing you can do is thank yourself for dodging a bullet, get back to doing you, and let the rest shall fall into place.