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Sexism Wants Us to Think We Don’t Deserve Orgasms

A recent study has found that heterosexual women who hold sexist beliefs of their own are less likely to orgasm during sex, Cosmopolitan reports. This might be because women are subconsciously picking up on their partners’ sexist attitudes about whether or not a woman deserves pleasure during sex.


The study found that women who have “dominant” male partners might be less likely to expect equal pleasure from their partners because they think it’s their partner’s right to be selfish and only worry about his own orgasm. When women tolerate these behaviors, they are also less likely to ask for pleasure at all.

Women who tolerated ambivalent sexism were found “significantly” less likely to experience orgasms with their male partners (from any kind of sex). Where’s the fun in sex without pleasure?!

Researchers also asked female participants about their feelings regarding “ambivalent sexism,” or ideas such as “women need to be cherished and protected by men.” You know, knight-in-shining armor, hold doors open and never let a female pay for a meal kind of BS. Shouldn’t chivalry include making sure your lady gets off?

We are totally down with our partners taking care of us (who doesn’t like not paying for a meal every once in a while, anyway?), but if this is rooted in a belief that we need taking care of, it’s not okay. According to the study itself, benevolent sexism justifies “prejudicial attitudes toward women…through the guise of care and protection.”

We gotta fight for our right to orgasm, ladies! Nobody puts your pleasure in a corner.

Margeaux Biché

Columbia Barnard

Margeaux Biché is a current senior at Barnard College living in New York City. During her freshman year, she studied at the George Washington University in D.C., where she wrote for The GW Hatchet. She is a Women's, Gender & Sexuality Studies major and is passionate about social justice. While she does not know exactly where she'll take her degree, she hopes she can contribute to the advancement of marginalized peoples through legal and/or activist work. Chocolate covered pretzels are her favorite food, Rihanna is her favorite musician and her go-to talent is her ability to wiggle her ears. Margeaux loves dogs, hiking and her hometown basketball team, the Cleveland Cavaliers, all of which are oft-featured on her Instagram account. Twitter | LinkedIn