Need Dr. Drew relationship advice but don’t have the sensationalistic drama to warrant TV time? Unfortunately, Real Live College Guy Ryan isn’t a reality show therapist. However, he can provide the lowdown on everything you’ve ever wanted to know about college males: how they think, act, speak and genuinely interact with the women in their lives. College-aged men are walking paradoxes, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be understood. Read on and discover how to deal with their good, bad and (often times) confusing mannerisms.
My boyfriend and I are doing the long distance relationship thing. I found out that he cheated on me, and I thought it would be over from there, but he still claims he wants to be with me and that it was all a mistake. Should I continue this relationship through my college years? – Cheated on at UChicago
You’re struggling to make a decision? Dump his ass, cut your losses and move on.
Long-distance relationships are delicate situations. They require a lot of trust and an inordinate amount of patience in between seeing each other. You also have to create some sort of sexual ingenuity. That’s tough considering the distance, but keeping you and your guy satisfied (through Skype sex, sexting… you get the drift) will prevent him from letting his eyes and genitalia wander.
However, your boy broke stipulation number one. Even if you two weren’t doing a long-distance relationship, his cheating is still cause for calling it off. If you want a relationship to work, it’s necessary to trust that he won’t end up in the wrong bed. When you’re miles apart, that trust is even more important. In the case of cheating (especially in long-distance relationships) one time is enough. What’s to stop him from doing it again when you’re not there (which is almost always)?
Consider this situation solved and end it. It’s not worth the anxiety you’ll experience while continuing to date him. Plus, Chicago’s a large city. You’ll find someone closer who will appreciate you enough to keep his eyes and hands off other women.