Need Dr. Drew relationship advice but don’t have the sensationalistic drama to warrant TV time? Unfortunately, Real Live College Guy Ryan isn’t a reality show therapist. However, he can providethe lowdown on everything you’ve ever wanted to know about college males: how they think, act, speak and genuinely interact with the women in their lives. College-aged men are walking paradoxes, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be understood. Read on and discover how to deal with their good, bad and (often times) confusing mannerisms.
HELP ME! I started seeing this guy at the end of the school year last year and we really hit it off. We talked about once a week at the beginning of the summer and even talked about what things would look like if we were in a relationship together. As the summer wore on we did not talk as much. Now that school has started back up again things are weird between us. We have six classes together and he will hardly say two words to me. I really like this guy and want things to work out between us. What do I do? – Ignored at UC Irvine
Summer’s great for multiple reasons: barbecues, warm weather, a guilt-free excuse to sleep until noon and wake up to a breakfast of cold pizza and beer. However, unbeknownst to many, the season can also have its potential drawbacks, which include attempting to keep a spring fling sizzling.
It sucks, but that’s the unfortunate part about trying to keep a long-distance romance alive. The lack of hanging out might easily kill whatever momentum you two had. Sure, you can talk once a week, but not sharing the same experiences or interacting on a daily basis will crush your chances as a couple.
So if you really like this guy, salvage it. Just because things are “weird” doesn’t mean that they can’t revert back to your April-through-May glory days. Since there was a communication breakdown, he’s probably unsure about how to react to you. Does he revert back to being warm and affectionate like nothing happened? Or does he act like he’s not interested because you two stopped talking? He’s just as confused as you are.
This is where you assert that you still like him. We, the male sex, are idiots and typically need to be led by our noses in relationships. We’re horrible at picking up on your many cues even when you’re being obvious. Odds are we’ll be even more oblivious on how to approach you after we randomly stopped talking. So approach him and let him know that you want to hang out. Don’t confess your pent up feelings for him; instead, make small talk, act friendly and, if the conversation’s going well, ask if you can hang out. If he declines, at least you tried. Just ask him and then those six classes should become a little less nerve-wracking.
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