Growing up I was taught that sex should always be with someone special, and should be saved marriage. However, I did not follow those standards. When I started to become more honest about my sex life, I started to catch slack because I chose to become more sexually active. I have been called “slut”, “whore,” and “thot.” But, before I lost my virginity I was called a “prude.” The point is, it does not matter what you do with your body because there will always be judgment. The number of partners you have does not make you less of a person or a bad person, it is just a number. The amount of partners does not reflect your values. So here are some reasons why your number does not matter:
1. It does not make you better at sex
Just because you have had multiple partners does not mean you will have different experiences. Also, quantity does not always mean quality.
2. Your amount of partners does not reflect your values
The number of partners you have does not make you less of a person or a bad person, it is just a number and it does not change who you are.
3. It does not reflect your sex preferences
Just because someone has had multiple partners does not mean that they are super kinky. Also, just because someone has not had as many partners does not mean that they are not sexually adventurous.
4. There is not a perfect number
There is no scientific or socially acceptable number for how many people you should have sex with (and even if there was one, I would try to break it).
5. The amount of partners you have is not tied to your sexual health
Just because you have had multiple partners does not automatically mean that you have an STI.
6. Your sex number will only attract “a certain” type of person
In my experience, my partners do not care about how many partners that I have been with.
7. It is not anyone else’s business what you do with your body!!!!
It is your body and it is your right to do what you want with it!