“I didn’t go through recruitment this spring because I wanted to focus on my school work and because I didn’t think I was ready to commit to one set of girls. Was that was silly of me? Should I have gone through recruitment anyway just to see if I was ready after all?”
First of all, I really respect you for making this a serious decision and taking your school work into account. Joining a sorority can be a great experience that is sure to leave you with many great memories and lasting relationships. Another great aspect about joining is that you have your entire college experience to do so. There’s no hurry to join something, especially if you’re unsure.
I know that you’ve probably heard it several times from a parent, but you do come to college to get an education, and you should never let anything interfere with that. The first year always seems like a whirlwind and if you feel like you want to take that first year or so to adjust, and get some experience with college life, then by all means, do it.
I admire you for your honesty. Saying you felt like you weren’t ready to commit to one group is one of the very hard parts about sorority. Taking this extra time to explore yourself and your options a little more was a great decision so that you have a better idea of where you want to go if and when you do go through.
Something important to remember is that regardless of Greek letters, you can be friends with whomever you’d like, and real friends wouldn’t care what group you join or don’t join. I don’t think you are “silly” for wanting to wait; besides, you can always go through fall recruitment if you feel you’re ready.
Never doubt your decisions as long as you make them based on what you really think! I wish you all the best in possible future recruitments!