Collegiettes, meet our RLCG (Real Live College Guys), Eric and Sebastian, the newest members of our Her Campus WPUNJ team!
You’ve read this article before: Hundreds of them. Nearly every newspaper and website on earth features some element of advice, packed to its brim with outdated, confusing, preachy, and exhausting dialogue on the complexities of the sexes.
We are not that article.
We are two living, breathing college gentlemen, and we are here to give your burning questions the most honest and straightforward answers our editor will allow.
Let’s begin.
I have a crush on my guy best friend, which was no big deal until he got a girlfriend. How do I be supportive without compromising my well-being and heart?
E: This sounds like every motion picture I’ve ever watched. Unlike in those films, don’t expect something to magically work out in your favor. If you want him and are willing to go through whatever it takes to get him, then make it happen. If not, watch those movies.
S: I’ve come to understand that having a “crush” on someone you consider a best friend is very tricky. I would say to find a new crush to help keep yourself mentally occupied, to fill that romanticizing void in your heart. Don’t become a psycho.
E: Definitely don’t. Please.
I’ve recently been seeing this guy but he won’t commit to anything until he gets a job… but he isn’t looking for any jobs either. Is he just playing me or should I keep waiting?
S: He’s not trying to commit. Surely if he wanted to, he would have begun looking for a job now — not only to help buy you nice things but to sustain and provide for himself as well. I wouldn’t wait for someone who can’t back up his word.
E: To quote Admiral Ackbar, “It’s a trap!”
Why do guys talk to other girls when they have a girlfriend?
E: First, that’s a bit of a massive generalization, as I know plenty of guys who would never talk to another girl (intimately so, late night snapchats, etc.) when they have a girlfriend.
The others? Well, we live in a world of plummeting attention spans and immediate gratification at our fingertips. This is only going to make it harder to settle, feel satisfied, and accept the exclusive nature of conventional love.
S: To display dominance over other males, to show that he can collect more cougars and rule the jungle.
What you think of a girl you like if she hooks up with your friend?
E: Does she know I like her? Have I made any attempt to woo her? If not, then it’s entirely my fault, and I have to make a move. Abraham Lincoln once said that things may come to those who wait but only the things left by those who hustle. Go hustle.
S: She knows I like her + she likes me back = Misguiding and manipulative.
She knows I like her + she does not like me back = Cool; whatever.
She does not know I like her + she likes me + friend does not know I like her = Uh oh; my queen is getting away.
She does not know I like her + I don’t know if she likes me back + friend does know I like her = WTF friend of mine!
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