1. Lube Is Your Friend.
Even if you don’t have a problem with lubrication yourself, lube really helps to prevent tearing and uncomfortable friction for you both… it also just makes the whole experience A LOT smoother… like silky smooth.
Pro-Tip: Lube is ABSOLUTELY key for great hand jobs (so much EASIER for you, and BETTER feeling for him). Oh, it’s also super prime for sex in the shower (which you should also try!).
2. Nighty It Up.
If you’ve been with your partner for a while, odds are they’ve seen you in AT LEAST one of your big baggy t-shirts and panda pj shorts. While this is 100% okay and incredibly comfortable, if you’re looking for a new reaction, slip on a new nighty they’ve never seen before. Doing this once in a while spices things up and also can make you feel incredibly sexy/empowered!
3. Talk About It.
Is there something you’ve always wanted to try in bed? But were too nervous to do/ ask for? If you’ve found yourself a partner that you’re comfortable with, TAKE THE LEAP! You deserve to explore and take control of your pleasure! It can even start off as a “joke” that eventually becomes a serious reality if you’re a little nervous. Be real with each other, but also remember be respectful of each other’s boundaries. Not everyone will be as adventurous as you, but why not test the waters? Does it really hurt to ask?
4. Play Games.
No. Not mind games. Fun games. Ones that end in super fun and exciting sex. I’m talking about strip poker, twister, and cards. Making wagers and bets can create an amazing buzz between the two of you. Also, try making up your own games in every-day life. For example: If you get ____% or above on your test, I will do ___ this to you. OR, if you go ____ minutes without looking at your phone, I’ll do _____ to your ____. The more creative you get, the better.
Ps. It’s fun to rack up points aka: “favors”.
5. Pump Up The Jams.
It might sound cheesy to play music while having sex but… do it. Create a playlist on your spare time with slow and sexy tracks like Miguel’s “Coffee”, something upbeat and frisky like “Bad” by Wale, or something truly sweet and beautiful by Bon Iver. Have this ready to go and the mood will instantly be set. Turn it up loud and move to the sensual beat, trust. It’ll feel like a movie.