College is the only time in your life when you can be selfish and not be hated for it. It’s important to be selfish with your time and all aspects of yourself! Immerse yourself in every single thing possible, experiment, meet people, be as wild and free as you can be!
The last thing you need is to be tied down during this time of your life! Or even worse, be stuck with a broken heart when you should be building your empire! Although developing feelings for a person can happen, it can also be prevented!
1. Set Your Mind
Having a set mindset when you meet someone new will help you prevent creating emotions towards that person. This will make it easier for you to keep yourself from falling. If you do begin to have feelings, you can remind yourself of all the reason why you don’t want to have those feelings.
Remember, learn to be in control of your feelings; as women, it is extremely difficult to be in control of our feelings, especially when we have a million different feelings at one time. But just like anything, you can learn to master your feelings and control them.
2. Give Each Other Space
The more time you spend with a person, the more you’ll begin to like that person; it’s just natural. Give yourself room to enjoy being single and also get the opportunity to meet new people. The fact that during this time of your life you are constantly changing and growing, you may meet someone who you think really sparks your interest and then come to find out that you don’t really like this person as much as you thought you did.
3. No Texting or Calling Each Other On the Regular
This is just as dangerous as spending too much time together! You will naturally become accustomed to that person’s good morning texts and will catch yourself constantly checking your phone to see if he’s called you or texted you. Then you will unconsciously memorize his schedule and know when he gets out of classes and what time he gets off work as you wait to hear from him; don’t do it to yourself!
4. No “Creating Memories”
It is easy to get caught up in the moment and want to capture these moments in pictures! Yes it’s fun and harmless, but if you do it, you will eventually have a day where you randomly start going through your album on your phone and you notice that you two have created many memories. This turns into reminiscing; you will catch yourself smiling and giggling over these “harmless” pictures and you will miss this person.
5. Keep Your Personal Life Personal
If you tell them your life story, ultimately this will lead to long conversations and you two will have something in common which will then lead to more conversations, which will turn into communication, which will lead into a dangerous zone called “feelings.”