Some say this break up can be almost as heartbreaking, if not more than the failing of a romantic one—the best friend break up. Sometimes we meet people that we think will stay in our lives forever, but as we get older we start to realize that’s not always the case. We are sometimes blind to how much the loss a friend can take its toll until it actually happens. Whether it was distance or a bad argument to cause the breakup, it’s never easy to break up with your best friend, mainly because these relationships are way more impactful than we think. Here are four common ways best friends breakup and how you can weather them:
1. Distance
Often times best friends are separated once they graduate from high school and go on to different colleges. It can be very hard to maintain a relationship with your friend when you’re balancing schoolwork, a new social life, etc. It can be easy to get caught up in your new environment that you barely make time to catch up with your friends from home, like you used to. One of the easiest situations to fix, just send a text or call and plan a date to meet up. Don’t rely on just electronic communication.
2. Growing Apart
Things just aren’t the same as when you would play in the park when you were six. Now, as you’re older you start to realize there are many differences between you two, which is okay. As we get older you realize that when you were in middle/high school it was easier to get along because you were together all of the time and everyone was doing the same thing. Now in college, there are new friends and you start to realize you don’t have as much in common as you thought. Although this probably means you have grown apart, still keeping in touch is great because of your history and knowing someone from your childhood.
3. Bad Argument
I’m sure we can agree that all BFFs argue. Sometimes the arguments can get very heated and it can be hard to make light out of the situation. Although it can be difficult to put your pride aside, you must ask yourself “Is this really worth ending a long-term friendship over?” That question alone can signify if the relationship is important to you.
4. You Didn’t Know You Were Breaking Up
Sometimes we go on about our lives without even realizing that we’re slowly breaking up with our bestie. You may go a few days, even weeks and not even realize you haven’t communicated with them, or maybe even forgot their birthday passed. Although, there may not be a specific reason you guys haven’t been talking, an easy way to fix this is simply addressing the situation.
HCXO!