All your friends are having sex, so that means you need to, right? Wrong.
Just because all your friends have decided to take things a step further with their SO’s doesn’t necessarily mean you have to, too. You have the choice to do whatever you want, but it can feel weird when you are literally the only one of your friend group that is still a virgin. Maybe you’re not attracted to anyone at the moment, or you’re waiting for that special someone.
Either way it’s perfectly fine, but there are some difficulties that come with being the only one in your friend group with a v-card.
1. You’re scared your friends secretly judge you.
You’re the only one that isn’t doing someone while they all are. Maybe they think differently, but if your friends are good friends then they don’t judge you for it.
2. You don’t really care what happens behind closed doors.
Just because they all gossip about their fun times and who’s with whom and whatever else, does not mean you want to hear about it. They can do whatever and whoever they want. It doesn’t need to involve you.
3. It doesn’t mean you’re completely innocent.
Everyone likes to think you’re some little innocent flower or something. You’re really not. Just because you haven’t gotten to bed doesn’t mean that you haven’t done anything. Sometimes friends who know about your v-card status like to act like you’ve never even talked to a guy before.
4. Or stupid.
You know how sex works. Everyone knows how sex works. Maybe you know more than others know, or you might know less. It’s just rude to assume we don’t know the basics. If your friends are the talkative type, hearing their stories will definitely expose you to more of what goes on underneath the covers.
5. You find yourself reminding your friends to be safe.
Are you pregnant? Did you use protection? Do I need to get you Plan B? Go to the health department? Please don’t tell me you have something. Is it bad? Are you pregnant?
Making sure your friends are safe is always a top priority and especially when it comes to safe sex. Just because you haven’t “done it” before, doesn’t mean you don’t know how to be responsible and help your friends make smart choices.
6. You’re out of the club.
All of your closest friends are having a rather steady love life. You’re not. They can talk all about experiences and excitements. You can’t. Don’t use this as an excuse to find someone to sleep with. Being “in” is not worth it.
7. They tell you to get an SO, but then change their minds three seconds later.
How many times have your friends told you that you needed a boyfriend just to look at their phone, sigh, and then tell you never mind? In the end, just do what’s best for you.
8. You have to remember that there’s nothing wrong with you.
It’s OK to still be a virgin. It’s a decision you get to make only when you’re ready, not because you’re pressured into it. There’s nothing wrong with it. Everyone has a different experience and at different times. When the time is right, you’ll know!
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