If you’ve ever had sex, watched a romantic movie, read an erotic novel, or viewed a pornographic video, you know the classic sex dialogue. It’s repetitive and mindless; nothing to write home about, not that you would…
Aren’t you bored of it?
I’m not saying that you should recite your grocery list or discuss the details of cannibalism in 18th century shipwreck reports while you’re getting laid. I’m just saying that “oh, baby,” “f*ck yeah!” and “you like that?” shouldn’t be the only lines available.
It’s not that these phrases are obsolete, or that they don’t have a place. I just want to hear my partner do more than talk to a higher being (“Ohhh, God!”) in the middle of lovemaking. I want something real and meaningful.
Let’s flip the script. Here are five things you should actually say during sex:
1. “Is this okay?”
You should always start with practical and essential dialogue that ensures you have consent from your partner. It’s not always sexy; in fact, it can be rather awkward. However, it’s the only thing that keeps your sexual encounter legal and ethical. Always ask if what you’re doing is acceptable. You might think they’ll love anal stimulation but you can never be sure, unless you ask.
2. “Can you show me?”
You will never have a better instructor than a partner who wants to orgasm. They’ll show you exactly what they want and how you can improve, if you’ll just ask. Be prepared to take criticism and put your newfound knowledge to good use.
3. “Let’s go again.”
Is anything sexier than a partner that truly wants to make you orgasm over and over and over? The answer is no. Be a blessing to your partner: do it again.
4. “You’re wonderful!”
Compliments go a long way. Your partner deserves to enjoy every minute of the act without worrying about their appearance. Even if your partner is in a position that makes them look like a busted can of biscuits, call them sexy and mean it. If they feel super attractive, they’ll be more open to trying that intimidating position you saw online.
5. “Are you ready?”
This is crucial. You can’t kiss a girl twice and expect her to be magically horny and lubricated. She’s going to need a more stimulation than that. You shouldn’t be dependent on lube, either (though you should always use it). Ask your partner if they’re ready to continue so they’ll be aroused and comfortable for the next round.