The past year of American politics has been one of the craziest and most divided in history. Between the wide disparity of political views and the ability to access more media coverage than ever before, this election has caused a deep divide among the American people. And it’s not just that guy on the news whose views we disagree with–often times it’s our neighbors, our coworkers, our family, and our friends. We can’t ignore the issues, but we want to avoid fighting with those we love.
So if you want to talk politics, okay. But here are some ground rules.
Realize that we are allowed to disagree. You and I are two different people. We have been raised differently, educated differently, and socialized differently. Our values are not exactly the same, and some certain ideas that seem unarguable to you may appear completely different to me. You don’t have to understand or agree with my opinion, but recognize that my thoughts have value and that I still deserve respect.
Avoid making statements you can’t back up. Having strong feelings about an issue is valid. Arguing your position is valid. But if you base your argument solely upon your emotional response or the last article you read on Facebook, your opinion isn’t very convincing. If you feel strongly that I should accept your position, tell me why, give me facts, and make me believe you.
Speaking of Facebook . . .
Never expect to win political arguments on social media. While it can be a powerful tool for spreading a message, it is also an easy way to lash out anonymously. Not all of your Facebook friends will agree with what you have to say and some will simply refuse to consider any point you make (because they are behind and computer screen, and therefore, they can). If you choose to share your opinion online, anticipate backlash and be prepared to respond in a civil and well-informed manner.
Don’t pretend to know everything. None of us have it all right. In many cases, we see what we want to see and miss parts of the picture. There is no denying that all media is, to one degree or another, biased. I might know relevant information that you don’t, and the least you can do is listen.
Don’t assume that my political beliefs define me. I feel passionately about certain political issues. I also feel passionately about my hobbies, my family, and eating mac and cheese. There is more to me than my political leanings. Whether or not our beliefs align, I am more than who I voted for in November; I am a human being, just like you.
Stay calm and stay kind. The last thing we need in this world is more hateful speech and actions. Whatever side you are on, remember that we are all in this together. Even if not for our political opinions, we have a relationship for a reason. Keep your cool, be respectful, and remind me that I matter to you (even if we can’t see eye to eye right now). I promise to do the same.