Some might say three is a crowd and at times it can. The fighting, the make ups, and the times the threesome becomes a bit of a twosome with a third wheel lagging behind it. Romantic relationships are difficult, but unromantic relationships can be just as stressful, aggravating, and exhilarating because friends can become family. When they end, it can feel like heartbreak. However, you can have the best times when being in this type of friendship, and having two support systems are better than one.
1. The support
You have two support beams instead of one, in any case of emergency you will always have at least one of them to be there. Plus, gossiping in a group of three is much better than complaining to one person. Lastly, you get two opinions on how to solve your crisis and I promise you one of them will agree with you and the others opinion will be the opposite of your own. However, I can assure you the will give you a kick in the butt when you need it, but this can be hard to accept and be un-welcomed when you don’t want to hear it and when both parties’ ideas/opinions are against your own support can feel like an attack. You must remember the only want the best for you, even though it feels like they’re not.
2. They’re your personal FBI agents and Wing Women
When you go out and have fun and you see a cute guy, you usually go and get your friend, but in a trio-ship you not only have one wing woman, you have two and both are trying to help you land your man. They also somehow can find out everything about him in under ten minutes through social media accounts and you often think they could work for the FBI, if the FBI had a stalker unit. The only drawbacks are when you’re the single member and the endless attempts at finding you a boyfriend and neither of them recommend anyone, you are even slightly interested in.
3. You have two spontaneous sidekicks
They say that in our youth is the time to make wild, spontaneous, and utterly stupid decisions and in a trio-ship, you have to other people making them with you and often the crazy adventures are just what you needed. If you want to go skydiving, bungee jumping, or talk to that stupid boy, for some reason you can’t get over, you have two people right there with you, supporting the idiocy. If you do something extremely dumb like get a horrible inner lip tattoo however, you either have two people supporting you or hopefully stopping you from getting it in the first place.
4. Two personal Gynecologists and Therapists
Although, neither professionally equipped both have knowledge on the human form and help you figure it out and are there for you when you need to them to be. As we grow and move from under our mothers wings you start to realize how little you can know about yourself and body and among your friends you learn many things about yourself and your body. Your friends can be like gurus guiding you through the ways of woman hood. They also can be great therapist, but you must remember just because they seem to know more does not mean they have the keys to life. Venting and talking to them is fine but they can only do so much and being overly dependent can cause a strain on the relationship. Also, avoid talking one subject to death and learn to listen and take advice but if you don’t refrain from talking about the same issue and expecting a different response from your friends.
5. The make ups and break ups
As in any relationships there is bound to be fighting and arguments that feel like they have no resolve or what one of you did to the other can never be forgiven because of it you cannot see a future for your friendship. However, in most cases times heals all wounds and a sincere apology and showing that you care and respect on another goes a long way and can lead to forgiveness. This type of relationship takes a lot of time, energy, and patience and as challenging as it is, it is just as rewarding helping you grow and develop in to hopefully someone you would like to be. Often, the fight or argument is needed and afterwards you understand why, and it can make your relationship. Although this isn’t the case every time, sometimes a relationship has run its course and at some point, you must know when to let go because you’re only hurting yourself by holding on.
As in any relationships there is bound to be fighting and arguments that feel like they have no resolve or what one of you did to the other can never be forgiven because of it you cannot see a future for your friendship. However, in most cases times heals all wounds and a sincere apology and showing that you care and respect on another goes a long way and can lead to forgiveness. This type of relationship takes a lot of time, energy, and patience and as challenging as it is, it is just as rewarding helping you grow and develop in to hopefully someone you would like to be. Often, the fight or argument is needed and afterwards you understand why, and it can make your relationship. Although this isn’t the case every time, sometimes a relationship has run its course and at some point, you must know when to let go because you’re only hurting yourself by holding on.
“Friends are the family we choose” – Edna Buchanan