Dear Alpha Women of the World,
It’s February, the month of love. The month where the pressure of being with someone or having someone is tense. As the self-reliant women that we are, we like to resort to Tess Coleman’s quote from the iconic film Freaky Friday, “remember, you are a smart, strong, beautiful, independent woman and you don’t need a man to complete you.” Although that quote holds great truth it doesn’t mean that we don’t think about the thought of being in a relationship, about having a significant other to share the holidays with or a simple meal, I mean we’re human and have needs and desires like everyone else in the world.
However being an untrammeled lady in the world, we can come off as intimidating, but hey, at the end of the day you are a strong, bold woman who needs a man to keep up with her, not a boy who plays games. My advice for us looking to step into the romance world is simple, common sense, keep it casual. We are college students dealing with school, work, life, if you’re adding romance to the mix, don’t overwork yourself. You are first and foremost your priority, make sure you are taking care of yourself and pursuing your goals, chasing your dreams, whoever comes into your life should not be a pause button on your way to success but rather a support system, someone who believes in you and will take on the challenges life throws at you together. We are leaders, forging paths, crossing boundaries, breaking glass ceilings which ultimately mean we are not going to morph into the desires and needs of guy who obviously is not interested if he couldn’t see the bombshell you were from the start, we want a partner who sees us as an equal in every way.
College romance is not as tricky as everyone seems to think it is. It all depends on who rolls the dice to make the first move. If you are willing to put yourself out there, to venture with an open mind then you are already halfway to success and when planning a date, make it simple, something casual where you can interact with one another and see what you like what you don’t like, interest, hobbies in the words of Rihanna, “If someone is right for you, you’ll know it.” If you see a cute guy and you don’t know how to go about the situation of talking to them, take charge ladies, be straight to the point with them. We’re not in high school, we’re not in middle school we got plenty of things going on in what we would like to believe our adult lives, so stop the games and be blunt; take the risk, more often than not it pays and you will not be left wondering, “what if?”.
No matter where you currently are in the romance world just remember you are human, you will fall in and out of love and will not be able to control every situation that pops up. All you can do is be yourself, you have nothing to hide. You have talent, skill, smarts, beauty and so much more and eventually, someday the right person will come into your life and remind you that you’re a catch and that they’re damn lucky they found you.
Yours Truly,
Miss. Independent