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An Open Letter to My Future Boyfriend

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UIC chapter.

Hey you, whoever you may be, what’s up?

Just kidding, I already know what’s up because I know everything. Just kidding again (but only a little). Well anyway, I just wanted to say a few things.

Most importantly, thank you. Thank you for being here and for accepting me how I am. I know you probably will have to go through some extra effort to get me to trust you fully. My relationship history has been a little strange. I entered my first relationship with full force and got invested really quickly. I think partially because of that, and partially because I’d had no prior experience, I had jealousy and trust issues. It caused a lot of unnecessary problems.

So when that ended, attempting to learn from it, I entered my second relationship (if it even counts) with total and complete trust. Of course that backfired and turns out I put 100% of my trust in a very untrustworthy person. I trusted him unwaveringly even when in hindsight it’s so obvious that I shouldn’t have.

That’s how it’s been for me so far. Not trusting the people I can, and trusting the people I can’t. Despite everything, I don’t regret any bit of it, though. I believe that those experiences taught me a lot and now I have you. I’m still learning, don’t get me wrong. I’m still trying to find the right balance between being cautious and guarded and being trusting. I want to thank you for your willingness to be with me as I try to find that balance. You should be aware, however, that once I do feel like I can trust you totally—I will. I will choose to trust you above all else, because I believe that’s really the only way to have a happy relationship. Please do not take advantage of that.

On a lighter note, I want you to know that aside from trust, I believe fun is one of the most crucial elements to any relationship. You’re my friend, my homie. You’re so much more than just a simple boyfriend and I hope you can say the same about me. I hope you enjoy spontaneous adventures, just staying in and chilling, going out and turning up, and all types of other random sh*t. No matter what we do, I’m sure it’ll be a good time, because you make me happy.

Finally, I want you to know that you are a really special person to me. I’m not with you just for a relationship, I’m with you for you. That means a lot. I appreciate you as a human being and I don’t want you to forget that. 

Clare is a sophomore at the University of Illinois at Chicago. She is majoring in Marketing and planning on minoring/double majoring in Finance. In her freetime, Clare loves drinking tea, hanging out with her friends and catching up on her favorite TV shows!
Erin is a Communication student at the University of Illinois at Chicago and the President and Editor-in-Chief of UIC's Her Campus chapter. On a daily basis, she can be found making excessive film references and getting overly emotional about superhero TV shows. She has a deep passion for writing, movies, music, good books, and great food, and will gladly talk your ear off about all of the above if prompted to do so.