Collegeittes, we’ve all been in a limbo at some point in our lives. I’ve been in limbo plenty of times, but more so recently this semester. What do I mean when I say limbo? I mean you’ve been stuck on something whether it was about a certain class, internship, graduate school, or a guy etc. It’s okay to be in limbo sometimes, but it shouldn’t consume you nor be a main focus for you.
If you’re in limbo because of school, then that’s okay! I don’t know a collegeitte who hasn’t been stuck because of school. We’re in college, and let’s be real, it’s no walk in the park, regardless of what major you have. Remember no one has an easy major, since every major has their own challenges. You have to roll with the punches. Of course that sounds harsh, and you’re most likely thinking I have no idea what you’re going through, but I do. I’m a nursing major, so I’ve been stuck and worried about so many classes, since we all know science and math classes aren’t the easiest. Just like many of you, I’ve been on the struggle bus and worried about whether or not I’m going to pass a class, get the GPA I want, get into the graduate school/program I want. If I let it be my focus and constantly worry about it, then nothing would get accomplished and I would be miserable the whole time. It’s okay if you want to talk about it, cry, or call your parents because bottling it all up isn’t good. After you’ve done the things I mentioned, you need to put on your big girl pants and get back out there. You need to put all your effort into passing your classes or working towards your internship/ graduate school applications. You can’t sit and complain about the problems, but work towards the outcome you want.
If you’re in limbo because of guy, then you need to get out that funk quick. If things didn’t head in the direction you hoped for with him, then either be friends with him or move on. If you want to pursue a friends with benefits relationship, but you’re worried what others might say, then who gives a crap? It’s your choice and you shouldn’t be worried what others might say as long as you’re happy with that relationship. If you’re playing the “game” with him, then you need to stop. He isn’t a mind reader and you just need to tell him what you want sooner rather than later. It saves you time and from feelings getting hurt. If he turned you down and said he wanted to be friends, then either be friends with the man or move on to the next one. I can’t tell you that down the line he’ll decide he wants to be more than friends, because if that’s what you’re hoping for it’s a risk you have to be willing to take or just meet someone new. I know this is some tough love, but being in limbo because of a guy is not worth your time. You have so much more going on for you than whether or not a guy wants a relationship with you. He doesn’t define who you are and if he’s causing you to be in limbo, then is it really worth it?
Collegeittes, I know this was article was filled with a lot of tough love, but it’s because I know my readers are fabulous independent women. You need to snap out of this funk and get yourself back on track. School is always going to be hard, but it’s to help you pursue your career. If school wasn’t hard, you wouldn’t be has determined, focused, or hard working. Guys are going to come in and out of our lives, but one day there is going to be a guy that won’t make you second guess or worry. He’s going to be direct and clear with you, instead of being indecisive and playing childish games. Take the world by storm collegeittes, because it’s ready for you!