How to Deal With the Haters

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One of the greatest things about living on a planet with seven billion people on it, is that there are seven billion personalities out there. With so many people to interact with, it’s amazing how many connections can be made. That being said, there are many circumstances where personalities clash, leading to a less than ideal situation. We all know that drama is the least popular dessert at the party, but why do we continue to let it into our lives?

I’ve noticed a trend in petty fights and dramatic people, and it’s no secret that dealing with it involves lots of uninvited stress. It’s increasingly unfortunate when drama is created because two personalities just don’t mesh well together. Fights break out over nothing more than the fact that there was a loss of connection, leaving both parties pointing their fingers at each other. We’ve all been in these situations and we’ve all experienced haters during all the checkpoints of our life, but what can we do to fix it?

The first step to dealing with a hater is realizing that you didn’t do anything wrong. It’s not your fault that they don’t like your sense of humor, backwards compliments, and extra behavior. If you’re a people pleaser, it might be hardtop restrain from correcting yourself to make them happy, but that is not the healthy solution. If this situation occurs, it’s best to just slowly avoid them to skip unnecessary conflict.

The second step is to ignore the drama. It’s easy these days to get wrapped up in what others are saying about you, but be the bigger person and stand above the rest. Resist the urge to subtweet. Refrain from texting them big long paragraphs. Ignore and stand strong. If you are being targeted in one of the aforementioned forms of mockery, keep your chin up and keep scrolling. Don’t give them the satisfaction that they crave by firing back.

The third step is to learn to move past it. If someone puts so much effort into hating you, you don’t deserve to have them in your life. Take it as a form of flattery that they are spending all their time talking about you and don’t dwell on the past. A lot of times, haters are ex-best friends so it might seem like an impossible task, but moving forward is the most crucial step.

If communicating isn’t an option, don’t sweat the small stuff, or the small people who think they are making a statement by dropping you. Some people thrive off of drama and create it wherever they see necessary. If you’re ever in a situation where someone is mad at you for no apparent reason, think long and hard about how much you value that friendship and make the appropriate moves forward to make things good for yourself. The great thing about living on a planet with seven billion people on it is that you’re destined to find people who love you for who you are.

 

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About The Author

Lena is a freshman at the University of Central Florida. She is studying hospitality in hopes of making her childhood dreams of working for Disney come true. As if it weren't obvious, she is head over heels in love with all things Disney. While shes not in school or at the parks, you can find her spending more money than she has on concerts, clothes, and crappy coffee. She is a lowkey movie addict and a highkey Instagram addict. If you want to see what she's up to when she's not hiding behind her laptop screen, you can follow her on Instagram @lena.daniels or read her extremely saracatic lifestyle blog http://chasinglena.wordpress.c...

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