So, I have this best friend. I have written about her before because, well… I don’t have that many friends. Basically, she’s really dope. We have been BFFs since freshman year of high school — so that’s 6 years if you don’t feel like doing the math.
It’s safe to say that we’ve had some incredibly rough times, but we have had the most fun. Like… photoshoots in my backyard posed against trees like we think we’re hot s#*t, re-watching A Cinderella Story because it’s amazing, massaging each other’s feet (and I hate feet), drinking with our mamas without the other present, and shaving each other’s legs (?!?!).
Not until this year did we start going to school together since high school. It kind of changed the name of the game for us. We were in this long-distance relationship (Seattle/Davis), but now we were best friends at the same school in the same city.
By winter break, we got into a pretty bad fight. We distanced ourselves from each other for a few weeks, but I couldn’t handle it anymore. I called her, and we had quite an explosive conversation. I had to stop interrupting a thousand times and lower my tone of voice often.
Long story short, we sobbed and apologized to each other in our car at a vista point in our hometown. Because we couldn’t get much more basic than that, we wrote a new year resolution list featuring “Don’t be overly dramatic”, “Don’t take s#*t from anybody”, “Stay lit” — just a few of my favorites.
Today, we got into a little fight. It was kind of overwhelming because it was our first thing since we made our list, so I didn’t know how to proceed. Was I supposed text her and tell her directly how I was feeling? Should I have waited to see what she said first?
I was honest and really direct. It was hard and slightly uncomfortable; however, so worth it. There were a few tension-ridden texts that were sent after, but apologies were made within 20 minutes. I feel like we’ve never been able to recover that fast.
It’s amazing having best friends to love, support, be goofy with and gossip with. But, it is equally as important to have conversations about how you feel when certain things push your buttons. It relieves much of the stress after a conflict with your bestie.
Ok — now here are some pics of us in our prime.
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