Clearly there is some aspect of your life that deep down, you know you deserve better. Sometimes it’s hard to admit, because admitting that we deserve better means we are also admitting that what we are currently receiving isn’t good enough. We spend our days convincing ourselves that it’s temporary, or that maybe, this is as good as it gets. But from one unfulfilled woman to another, you deserve better. I’ll never understand why day after day we continue to put ourselves through stressful situations, go to bed dissatisfied with the day we have had, and live the same day over on repeat. Whatever it may be, clearly there is some force in your life providing you the motivation to open this. Perhaps it’s your job, living situation, boyfriend, or simply how your life is playing out currently. No matter what the cause, you deserve better.
To the girl who hates her job:
While I understand the financial burdens of everyday life, I don’t understand why you continue to force yourself to work somewhere that you’re miserable. I did it for a little over a year, and looking back, I wish I would have left sooner. I dreaded waking up in the morning, and spent most of my shift glancing at a seemingly still-standing clock. It took one of my regular customers jokingly saying, “You have your whole life to hate your job. Don’t burn yourself out so young” for me to realize, he was right. I’m too young to be this miserable at a job. So I turned in my two-week’s notice, and it was the best decision I ever made. Now? I utilize my love for animals and nature by taking people’s’ dogs out for walks every day. Find a new job, try something new, but quit settling for a job you know you deserve better from.
To the girl who isn’t feeling at home:
Moving is always difficult, but what’s harder than that is living with other people. If you’ve dealt with a bad roommate or two, you know exactly what I mean. While it isn’t always easy to handle these situations, you must always make sure that your home is a safe, conducive environment. If your house is lacking that “homey” vibe, add some pictures and decorate until your heart’s content. If you’re having issues with your roommates, sit them down and establish some ground rules within your house. If you ever feel unsafe, or look for any excuse to not be home, maybe it’s time to look into a new place to live. I fully understand that breaking a lease is one the hardest things to do, especially in a college town. But your health and wellness is far more important than any deposit or lease will ever be. I had some pretty awful landlords, but when I told them the situation of why I no longer felt safe in my home, they understood why I needed to move out. You always need to put yourself first, and be in a living environment that betters you.
To the girl who deserves better than what she receives from some guy:
Whether you have a boyfriend, a potential SO, or a FWB ready at any minute, you still deserve to be treated right. Guys always say that women are complicated, but the same applies the other way. I have dealt with many men who make even the most complex woman seem simple. You deserve better than read messages, mediocre plans, and “Netflix and Chill.” Don’t ever settle for someone who could treat you better. Find a guy that treats you the way you deserve. As my mama once told me, “Life is too short for cheap dinners and mediocre sex.”
To the girl who wants more out of life:
Surprise! Life isn’t turning out like you planned. Actually, nothing is turning out, at all. So why do you continue through the same routine day after day? You don’t have to stick to the major you hate, just because freshman you thought you’d love it. I changed my major four times. The last time was during second semester finals week of my junior year. Don’t finish a degree just because you started it. This decision will impact your future, so choose passion over everything else. I am constantly on the pursuit of what sets my soul on fire. I refuse to settle for anything less, and you should too. Don’t settle for a life you know you deserve better out of.
You are deserving of a life that makes you happy, with a drive to move forward, and countless reasons to look forward to the new day. So no matter what you think of when you think of how you deserve better, whether it’s your job, boyfriend, living situation, general life, or whatever else, strive for it. Take the steps today, to ensure tomorrow, you receive better.