Oh Valentine’s Day, I can already feel the love and romance in the air. As you read this, chocolate is being eaten, roses are being smelled, birds are chirping, and, somewhere, a boy is playing the guitar while singing about his girlfriend’s eyes. Wow, what a beautiful day to be alive, that is, unless this is your 10000th Valentines Day single, and all you have going for you is knowing that your mom is an A1 Valentine. While Deborah or Robin or Barbara’s Valentines Day wishes are always sweet, when you’re in or approaching your 20s, something just doesn’t feel right about relying on your mom to call you and say that you’re loved. So, here are a few suggestions in order to make it a single V-Day to remember.
First, you need to mourn so that you can move on. Yes, you are single. Yes, it is Valentines Day. Boohoo. Instead of wallowing away in your tears and diving for the reeses, take a moment to ask yourself this dreaded question… why are you single? No, it is not because no one will date you. Maybe it’s because you are awesome and empowered and you don’t want to settle for anything less than you deserve. Maybe it’s because you haven’t found a person who makes you feel special and brings you up instead of tearing you down. Maybe you just got out of a relationship and you’re single because you need some time to find yourself again. Maybe you just like being single! I know it’s shocking that some women don’t desperately ache to be tied down, but it’s true. Some people desire the freedom of being single, and that is wonderful. Whatever your reasons are, there is a silver lining and you need to recognize that.
Once you’re done with your grieving stage, it’s time to plan yourself a damn good Valentines Day.
Your Valentines Day (and night) outfits will pretty much determine how this holiday will go for you. While I’m-single-and-have-no-one-to-dress-for groutfits may seem tempting, I think that you should take this opportunity to wear something that makes you feel sexy and confident. Wear an outfit in which you feel your most beautiful self, and, of course, adorn yourself in your silky lingerie for bed. Why do you need to dress for someone else to feel attractive?! Go be sexy for yourself. By dressing the part, I can guarantee you’ll be feelin’ yourself this Valentine’s Day. But, if you still seek a boy’s or girl’s or whoever you are into’s affirmation, send all the hot snapchats you’d like; I’m sure everyone will be in awe by both the confidence that you will exude as well as by your smoking appearance. Damnnnn girl.
Now that you’re feeling confident and like the hot mf that you are, it’s time to plan your Valentine’s Day adventures. We have a few options here. You can have some typical retail therapy, except this time, instead of buying away all your sadness, you are buying what makes you feel sexy. Remember, when you look your best, you feel your best, and this shopping is to sustain all those ~feels~.
Finally, it’s time to really get your night started. Whether or not you’re with your girl gang, pop open a bottle of wine and have a fancy dinner. Enough of the typical single V-Day pity-parties – instead of drowning out your emotions with chocolate syrup, you’re going to sit down and eat an orgasmic steak or chicken or salmon or whatever else your heart desires. If you won’t be having any action this Valentines Day, your stomach might as well.
After your hot and heavy dinner, it’s time to have some fun. If you’re with your friends, play some games and get your girl talk on. Throw it back to Bat Mitzvah sleepovers and play a few rounds of Never Have I Ever or Backstabber. I can almost guarantee that you and your friends will be laughing the whole night and, if you’re lucky, you’ll maybe learn a few new tricks from your friends’ endeavors. Nevertheless, even if you aren’t with your squad, you can partake in this one – movie night. Don’t watch a rom-com that makes you sad about not currently being in Paris and falling in love; rather, enjoy a night of watching trashy, fun movies like Magic Mike or one of the 50 Shades. I mean, would it really be a Valentine’s Day if you didn’t watch Anna and Christian have a steamy makeout session? I don’t think so.
So ladies, I am sending you off, feeling confident that your Valentine’s Days are going to be incredible. Even though you aren’t sharing this day with a significant other, you are going to eat well, have a few laughs, and, most importantly, feel sexy and empowered. Enjoy this single Valentine’s Day and try to live everyday with this strong sense of self-love. Xox.
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