Hello!
First of all, I’m Nikki and if you’re going to be involved with my best friend in any way, you should know that. You’ll be seeing a lot of me and likely hearing about me even more. She and I are a package deal. It’s kind of a “buy one get one free” sort of situation. We come together and that means you have to be okay with the fact that sometimes I come first. I’m not trying to be selfish, but me and her go way back. Also, if I’m being honest, I’m single and kind of lonely so you can’t have her to yourself all the time because that would mean that I’d be alone all the time and that’s not fair. The three of us can even hang out together sometimes if you want. I’ve been told I’m a great third wheel. I’m willing to share as long as you are. Keep that in mind.
Second, I want you to know that I know everything. I’ve stalked all of your exes on social media. If I was having a good day, I might have even figured out why those relationships ended. I know where you’re from and what car you drive. I know about the first text conversation you had, and how you met in person for the first time. Every time you mess up, I’m going to hear about it. Every time you fight, I’ll know. I’m not usually one for keeping score, but every time you mess up, and I mean really mess up, I’ll be taking note.
The last thing I want to clarify is this: She is special and she does not deserve to be hurt. She’s been through a lot and maybe she hasn’t been shy about sharing that with you or maybe she’ll never tell you. Her past is dark in certain places. Some of it isn’t easy to talk about and I hope to God that you’re understanding of that.
Loving her (and anyone really) requires patience. If you don’t have any, please don’t waste her time. Do not be upset with her because she wants to take things slow or move them fast. Don’t get mad when she hesitates to open up to you, or if she struggles to tell you how she feels. I know it can be frustrating, but this isn’t supposed to be easy. Stick things out and have conversations. Sometimes it takes time to be understood. Don’t give up until both of you understand. Also, remember that you aren’t perfect either. Nine times out of ten, there isn’t just one person at fault in an argument.
Apologize when you say the wrong thing. Hold her when she’s sad. Make her laugh every single day. She deserves the sun, the moon, and all the stars. I know you can’t give that to her, but if you want her, you have to try. I’ve seen plenty of significant others come and go. None of them deserved her, so please forgive me if I have a hard time believing that you do.
Sincerely,
The Best Friend You Don’t Want To Upset