College can be overwhelming, especially when trying to balance your student life with your social life. While you may be being pulled in too many directions to count, take a deep breath- it can all be done. As we get busier and busier, it’s important that we take the time to evaluate how we balance all of the roles we take on, and even more important that we take the time to enjoy all of those roles. What’s the point if you aren’t happy in the end? So when you find yourself completely overwhelmed, STOP. Breathe in, breathe out, and remember these tips:
Be realistic about how you manage your time. We all try to be Superwoman, but even she can’t do everything at once. Do what you can, and let go of the rest. Recognize that you are human, and you have limits. Schedule in some time for fun, friends, and relaxation – the happier you are, the more energy you will have, and the more productive you will be!
Respect your time, and your significant other’s time, for work or studying. When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to let your mind wander to thinking about your boyfriend or girlfriend, or wanting to spend every free minute with them. Remember that just like you, they have a commitment to their schoolwork, and their free time won’t necessarily match up with yours. When you get bogged down with studying, let your beau know you need some time to yourself, and when they’ve got their nose in a book, give them that same time and space. Healthy relationships have boundaries, and your schoolwork shouldn’t suffer.
Communicate; voice your wants and needs. Balancing a relationship, your studies, time with friends, and all of your extracurricular activities is a lot to take on. So talk to the people in your life and let them know when you need them to be there, or when you need some space to yourself. Everyone needs a little guidance, and communication will help steer you away from needless arguments and confusion. Don’t expect your bff or your guy to “just know” what you need. Make yourself clear.
Set aside some time for you. Don’t let your various roles drain you of energy, which can cause resentment in your relationships. Alone time is important, and putting yourself first isn’t selfish- it’s crucial. Part of taking care of yourself means spending some time alone, whether that means a good workout at the gym, a session of yoga, some free reading, or just resting in the comforts of your room.
Remember that a healthy social life makes for a healthy and happy you. While school should come first, it’s important you don’t get so caught up that you leave no time for friends. Take a break every day, even for just 30 minutes, to catch up with your friends.
Don’t overwhelm yourself by signing up for more than you can do. It’s easy to overdo it. We’ve all been there, the first few weeks of the semester you sign up for every club that interests you, and for a few weeks, you seem to be able to do it all. But come midterms, all those engagements can become pesky tasks that you simply don’t have time for. Be honest with yourself about what you can fit into your schedule, and what you can’t.
Finally, remember to have some fun! While college can be a lot of work, it should also be a time you enjoy, and if you’re not happy, it’s time to reevaluate how you balance your many roles!