Have you ever been in the position where you broke up with someone, but they are so addictive that you can’t even keep yourself away? Take it from me, cutting everything off cold-turkey sounds like the perfect idea at first, but when you start seeing that person, or you start seeing their name pop up on your phone, that evil question begins to sink deep into your conscience… Did I make the right choice?
As you find yourself pondering this question 3667235472653 times, just remember there IS a reason you ended it. What is it? Were they too controlling? Did they not care enough? Did they mess around on you? Did they make you feel inferior? Did they hit you? Whatever it was, there was a reason to put a stop to it. You were unhappy, and you made the decision to cut the negativity out of your life – which was the right decision.
No matter what, there will always be that stupid question at the beginning of this process, but you will slowly start noticing it fading away and out of your mind. Once you start focusing on yourself, surrounding yourself with positive people, and doing things that make you happy, you will look back and wonder why you were ever upset about your decision in the first place.
You only have yourself to worry about now, you don’t have to constantly worry about if your significant other is okay, and you don’t have to worry about what they think about whatever you are doing. After all, you are your own person and you do not need anyone’s approval, but your own.
Yes, you are going to have those drunken, lonely nights where all you want to do is text them and have them come to your rescue, but I promise in the morning you are going to regret it, and it is only going to make things a lot harder on you than it needs to be. I always find this happening when I make the most improvement. I will finally be okay without being with someone, but then I will lay down and realize that I am alone, and text that one person. It is taking ten steps forward in the right direction, but as soon as that text is sent, you just took twenty steps back.
Don’t let this happen… Don’t ever put yourself in a position that allows someone else to have unconscious control over you and your feelings. Yes you may be hurting, but never let the other person see because that shows them that they are your weakness, and that gives them more control than ever.
Just remember that this is YOUR life and YOU and only YOU can make it what you want. Life is way too short to dwell on little, unimportant things you cannot control. The most important thing in life is to be happy, so do what makes you happy and just remember that pain is temporary, but life is certain. Live your life to the fullest with the people that make you happy and lift you up, not the people that hurt you and drag you down.