As someone who isn’t new to the world of Tinder, Bumble, and other dating apps, I feel I have enough experience and well thought out opinions to express to the general public about the struggles of today’s “hookup” culture. So here they are, from personal experience, 4 struggles of only hooking up with people.
1. Talking to multiple people at once
When you’re on a dating app like Tinder or Bumble, you’re obviously going to be talking to multiple people at once, and sometimes it’s a cool feeling. Other times it gets overwhelming. Each conversation is completely different and sometimes it’s almost like being The Bachelor or Bachelorette. You and Chase may talk about movies you like and getting pizza sometime, but you and Brandon may only want to hook up and never see each other again. They’re all different and it’s hard to keep up with.
2. Not lasting for a long time
You never know how long a conversation is going to last with any of these people. I’ve had conversations that lasted months, and some that have only lasted two minutes. Actually meeting up with them is never a guarantee either, and that’s something to get used to.
3. GHOSTING
If you’re unfamiliar with this term, I’m here to help. Ghosting someone is very common when it comes to Tinder and Bumble and other similar apps. This is when you are talking to someone for a somewhat long period of time, maybe you’ve met up, maybe you haven’t, and then one day out of nowhere, they decide to stop talking to you completely. This is obviously worse if you meet up with the person at any point. It has happened to me enough times for me to not be salty about it anymore, but I still know that it’s 100% a not cute thing to do.
4. Being left high and dry
Depending on what you both want when you meet up, you’ll probably end up hooking up, and that can end in many ways. The one I have found the most common goes as follows: you meet up, maybe do something, you hook up, you never hear from them again. Sometimes that might be what you want, but other times you may want things to keep going, instead of just end on that awkward note.
In conclusion,
Dating apps are meant to fun and harmless (I’m pretty sure). Some people actually find their future husbands and wives there, which for someone like me who’s had a lot of not-so-great Tinder experiences is interesting to hear. I’ve never imagined actually having a successful Tinder experience and I really don’t see it happening for me, but at least it’s something fun to do for now.
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