… as told by New Girl
Let me set the scene for you. It’s Friday night on campus and you’re out with all of your friends. Drinks are flowing, the lights are dim and the newest Chainsmokers song is playing in the background. You’ve been pre gaming with your girlfriends and have finally made it out and met up with the rest of your group.
You look across the sea of people and spot one of your best guy friends. Your group is dispersed amongst the crowd so you hang tight with him, guaranteed to be a great night.
However as the night goes on and you’ve definitely started to drink more, things have gone from fun to flirtatious very quickly. For the first time, he starts to look kind of hot and you think to yourself, “I could be down for this?”
STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING. RIGHT NOW. JUST STOP. PUT DOWN THE VODKA SODA AND BACK AWAY SLOWLY.
I know what you’re thinking, “It will only be one time!” or “What’s the worst that could happen?” Well I’m here to tell you: a lot could happen.
Friendcest (noun): having sexual relations with a guy/girl within your friend group.
As much fun as your hookup might be, you do run the risk of making things incredibly awkward between the two of you. What if one person is more into it than the other? This is going to lead to you both trying to dodge each other for the sake of protecting each other’s feelings. But dodging each other is going to be hard because you’re in the same friend group.
On top of that, you run the risk of making things really awkward for the rest of your group. If you two have tension, chances are everyone’s going to know about it. So now everyone feels weird and doesn’t know how to act around you two. Are you together? Are you not? Is it weird? Are you guys cool? You’re leaving a lot up in the air for people to try and figure out. Nobody wants to deal with that kind of awkward tension.
I’m not here to tell you who you should and should not hook up with. As long as it’s consensual and both people are coherent, by all means go for it. I’m just saying to be wise about your one night stands and think a little further than one drunk hook up, your friends just might thank you for it later.