Chivalry: we’ve all heard the word, but does it even exist in our culture anymore? With the “Netflix and Chill” phenomena on the rise, how can women even know how they should be treated? When men repeatedly assume that they do not have to take women on dates to achieve their goal, it is often difficult for women to decide whom they should give the time of day to, and whom they should not.
What is the key; what changed in our society? Looking generations back, one can observe the dramatic difference in how the dating scene was conducted. The older generation conveys this difference in the fact that they continue to court one another even years following matrimony. They are often married for numerous decades and do not cease to display the unconditional love they have for one another.
There are several telling signs to look for in order to tell if your potential man is worth the energy and effort. While doing so it is absolutely crucial that you set certain standards. If the precedent is established early on, there is no doubt that if your man truly cares he will run the extra mile in order to win your heart and keep it.
Texting is overrated (somewhat). If you are receiving texts at least once a day with possibly a, “Morning, today is going to be crazy busy but I’ll talk to you tonight have a great day,” then chances are he is playing his cards right. He is most likely trying to not be that “clingy guy” while showing he still cares and wants to check in. Just because there is not constant communication does not mean that a potential relationship is not sprouting. This may only mean that he has various activities and other priorities that demand certain attention.
Dates and courtship is not overrated; old-fashioned values are also not overrated. Opening doors is charming, and be sure to hold him to the standard of coming to the door when he picks you up instead of texting that he is “outside.” If the guy is making an effort to take his girl out once or twice a week for any sort of activity or to spend time together, then that time definitely goes a long way. Dates are so rare on college campuses because of the evolution of “Netflix and Chill.”
Although often scary and strange to ponder about, many in college meet their spouse and the person they will spend forever with. It is now time to stop dating that typical “bad boy” or date because of boredom. If he is someone that you can see your parents’ approving of (and hopefully adoring) then that should be a telling sign. If not, bringing him home may not be a fantastic, worthwhile idea.
The evolution of dating is inevitable. As time and environments change, so do people and their interactions with one another. It is now time to say goodbye to the infamous, notorious “Netflix and Chill” and start setting a precedent that demands well mannered gentlemen that know the act of chivalry.