Being a freshman in college comes with many firsts, and for most people, that includes sharing a room with a total stranger. Establishing a positive relationship with your room-mate from the get-go will save you from a lot of stress and drama. Here are four tips for keeping the good vibes going between you and your roommate all year long.
1. Be Mature
If you are having an issue with your roommate, be mature, and act like an adult when handling the situation. Don’t keep your feelings bottled up or be passive aggressive towards her. While it might seem awkward, it’s important that you sit down and have a conversation with your roommate about whatever is bothering you. The longer you avoid talking your issues out, the more difficult it will be to bring them up later. Having that initial conversation will break the ice for other conversations you may need to have in the future.
2. Be considerate.
Always strive to be considerate and accommodating towards your roommate. Try not be noisy if you see that your roommate is trying to rest or study. Always wear headphones when using your computer, and take your phone calls outside. Pick up after yourself if your things are intruding on her side of the room. Your roommate will appreciate these small acts of consideration, and she will likely be encouraged to do the same for you.
3. Make other friends.
While we all hope that our roommate turns out to be our best friend, that usually is not the case. Don’t be worried if you and your roommate are not clicking in that way. A respectful and civil relationship is all you need to have a great living situation. Don’t overly invest in the relationship if it’s clear that the two of you are not meant to be best friends. Make other friends on campus through clubs and other activities. Having separate friend groups will allow you to give each other space when needed.
4. Spend your down time outside of the dorm.
The more time you spend in the dorm together, the more likely you are to get on each other’s nerves. It’s tempting to return strait to your dorm between classes to study, take a nap, or just relax, but you and your roommate will be on top of each other too much throughout the day. Spending time a part will help to relieve any tensions between you and your roommate. Find places on campus where you can be productive, and spend time there after class rather then running back to your dorm. Make plans to meet with friends between classes, or find a nice spot to relax on campus. Make your dorm the place where you can unwind after a long day.
Good luck HCXO!