As a single girl, talking with friends and family can bring up some awkward conversations about my relationship status. This is especially true in the second semester, when you’re supposedly meant to have found someone already. Although they mean well, our loved ones can sometimes say some irritating things about our *seemingly eternal* singledom. Keep this in mind on Valentine’s Day, when you might hear a few of these…
1) “Don’t worry, you’ll find someone!”
Being single is not a defect. I’m not worried about being single because there’s nothing wrong with that. Hanging with myself and my friends is enough!
2) “You don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend? I don’t get, it you’re so great!”
You’re implying that your relationship status defines your worth, which is just wrong. I’m single and I’m amazing; the two concepts are not mutually exclusive.
3) “What kind of guy/girl are you looking for?”
I have different preferences in my significant other, sure, but I’m not scoping out people like a hawk. I’m just doing me.
4) “You’re in college! You’ve gotta pick up a future doctor or engineer.”
This just makes no sense. First of all, wealth is the last thing I care about in a partner. Second of all, I’m in college because I plan on making that money all by myself!
5) “I have someone I can set you up with!”
God, no. Just no.
6) “I wish I was single like you. It’s so freeing!”
Yes, being single is great, but so is being in a relationship! They both have their benefits and their problems.
7) “Maybe you’re being too picky…”
I’m not going to lower my standards for significant others, because that would be lowering my standards for my happiness. I deserve everything I want in a person!
8) “Maybe if you [dressed differently/acted a certain way/changed something about yourself], then you’d be in a relationship by now.”
This is just disrespectful. If someone doesn’t like me exactly as I am, then I don’t want to be with them. I accept myself and my quirks and so should any potential partner.
Cuz we can be single and still be #FLAWLESS.