PSYCH100 may have taught you about Freud and Jung, but probably missed the most vital part: how can I use this to improve my dating life? So, next time you’re on a first date, or even celebrating a 6-month anniversary, ask these 3 questions to determine whether he’s a keeper or if you should be RUNNING far away, and fast.
As a disclaimer, I am not a relationship expert (trust me!) nor a psychology major, just a girl trying to save you from a catastrophe of a relationship or at least add some fun to a date.
There are tons of variations online to these questions and their significance, but as folk stories go, the origins are a set of Jungian questions meant to better our understanding of an individual’s psyche. Today we’re going to use them to improve our dating life! The version of the questions used for this article is like most of those circling the internet and can be found here. You can find other examples with a quick google search.
In addition, over here you can watch Whitney Cummings give Jimmy Kimmel her FUNNY version of the quiz, which she calls the “Red Flag Dating Test”. So obviously, it’s legit.
My best advice for introducing the questions without seeming like a psyche analysis is framing them as a “fun game” to play together or a “get-to-know-you” attempt. For the purpose of honesty, I highly recommend disclosing the purpose of the questions and post-answer providing an explanation for what the questions mean. Of course, it’s up to you!
Now that we’re ready, here are the three date questions you have to ask:
1. “What’s your favourite colour? How would you describe it/Why is it your favourite?”
Ideally the person gives you three descriptors which represents how they view themselves. You can start to get a sense of their confidence level or maybe attributes that you may also value.
2. “What’s your favourite animal? How would you describe it/Why is it your favourite?”
Again, you want to hear around three descriptors which represent how the person may view others. This can provide insight on their relationships, beliefs, and maybe include some deal breakers for you. Better to know sooner rather than later!
3. “What’s your favourite body of water? Can be as specific as Lake Eerie at 7am, or as general as the ocean. Why is it your favourite/Describe it?”
Here’s the key question. This one tells you how the person is in bed. The importance of this question is likely self-apparent. You’re welcome.
BONUS: “If you imagine yourself waking up in a completely white room with no windows or doors, how you would feel?”
Not to get too deep and to stop the date from getting morose: this question tells you how the person feels about death. Although it may not be a pressing matter for the survival of the relationship, attitudes on death can bring to light aspects of the person’s personality you would want to know about.
Well there you have it. The three questions to ask to figure out everything you need to know about your S.O. Have fun with it; these questions aren’t meant to be a 100% accurate process but they can be a good icebreaker and maybe provide a bit of insight. In the end, dating can be tough. Things don’t always work out the way we’d hope but that doesn’t mean we give up.
So, good luck out there; hopefully this makes dating a little easier!