We all know what it’s like to fall head over heels for someone, to be so infatuated with them that you don’t know which way is up and which way is down. It’s exciting and nerve-wracking and a teeny bit intoxicating. But what happens when your BFF’s don’t like your new beau? Here’s some tips to try and ease the tension.
Talk To Your Friends
Find out exactly why they don’t like your S.O. Is it for reasons that are completely unfounded, like the fact that he’s shy or not as fun as your last boyfriend? If so, those aren’t good reasons and you should ask your friends to respect your choice. However, if your friends are concerned because they don’t think he treats you well or that he’s not really invested in the relationship, hear them out and go from there.
Talk To Your Significant Other
Usually your S.O. will be able to tell if something isn’t quite right with your friends, and he might even have some hostility towards them as well. It’s so easy for this to put a strain on your relationship, so the important thing to do here is communicate. Be honest and express your concerns to each other and work together to see if there’s any possible solutions.
Stop Telling Your Friends Everything Wrong with Your S.O.
It’s important to be able to express your feelings to someone, and it’s great to have people to rant to, but when the only impressions your friends are getting about your significant other are negative ones, it’s eventually going to skew their opinions of him. Yeah, it can be really exasperating when your S.O. is upsetting you, but sometimes it’s better to try and work out your frustration by yourself instead of roping your friends into it as well.
Don’t Force Them to Be Around Each Other
Your friends and your significant other are some of the most important people in your life, so of course you want them to hang out together! But sometimes people just don’t click—and that’s okay. Different personalities don’t always mesh well, and it’s not necessarily anyone’s fault. Just because they have one thing in common (you), doesn’t mean they have the same interests, sense of humor, etc. Try setting aside one night of the weekend for your S.O., and one for your friends.
Listen To Them, They May Be Right
Maybe there really is a problem. Sometimes your friends can see red flags that you can’t, and even if you can see those red flags, you might choose to ignore them because you wish they weren’t true. Good friends want what’s best for you, and they don’t want to see you get hurt. While it’s important to trust your instincts, you also have to make sure nothing is clouding your judgement. Try to take a step back and really examine your relationship and if it’s right for you, because ultimately your happiness is what’s most important.