Dear Dave and Andy,
I was hooking up with a guy that I really like last weekend and it was getting pretty serious. I asked him if he had a condom, and he pulled out a female condom. I am not sure how to respond to this; is he serious or is he mocking me? I really like him and wanted to know what a guy thinks of female condoms?
Sincerely,
Really Confused
Dear ‘Really Confused,’
After doing a little research on exactly what a female condom is (because we will be honest, we were not too familiar with these before), we have decided that there is not necessarily a problem with female condoms, although it is definitely not a mainstream source of protection. As far as your concern with this guy goes, I would very much like to assume that he is not mocking you, but that would ultimately be something that you would have to figure out. Your best bet is to explicitly ask him how he actually feels about the female condom. There is nothing more important in any relationship than communication; whether it is just a friend, a relative, an open relationship, or a serious relationship. If a guy genuinely likes you as much as you like him (which he should if you are going to commit yourself to a relationship), then you should be able to discuss if a female condom is an appropriate source of protection, and if you are both comfortable using female condoms or if it would be better to find another method of protection. Still, coming from a guy’s point of view, we think it is definitely okay to use a female condom as long as both partners are comfortable. Just remember to communicate with this guy (or any guy for that matter) about any doubts you may be having.
Your Hometown Minds of Reason,
Dave and Andy
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